Ménage à trois? Honey's Guide to a Happy and Successful Threesome

Communication, Communication, Communication Opening up a relationship to a third party can be an exciting fantasy come true, but in reality it can either be as fantastic as you imagined or a complete disaster. The most important thing is to make sure you and your partner have discussed and communicated your desires, wants and rules for opening your sensual playground to others. Throwing your inhibitions to the wind and just letting things happen can be exciting but the unfortunate result of a lack of communication and forethought could be the beginning of the end of your relationship. So here are a few thoughts to discuss before entering the world of threesomes:

1. Jealousy: What is jealousy to you? Even the most open an honest of couples can feel jealous, and introducing a third party can often add fuel to the fire. Feelings of inadequacy, insecurity, fears of abandonment or of being rejected are all causes or reactions to the feeling of jealousy. Thus communication is important so you can discuss your feelings and try to resolve any issues that may arise beforehand so that you will be able to enjoy your threesome completely without unnecessary worry about your partner's interest in the other person.

2. Rules: Setting ground rules before you actually participate in this fantasy is always a good idea. If you and your partner are otherwise monogamous and usually do use condoms then it is a good idea to make sure that when in the threesomes there are condoms and safety measures used. Setting up the rules beforehand can help stop any uncomfortable decisions during your play time. Also it is a good idea to communicate anything of which you would be uncomfortable sharing with the third person (kissing, penetration …etc), because you either want that to be special for just the two of you, or you're concerned for heath reasons, whatever the case may be it is a good idea to know where to draw the line.

3. That Third Person: Depending on your comfort level with choosing a person you can decide to pick someone you know, or find someone through acquaintances or online.
With someone you know: Whether a close friend or someone who you are in communication with on a regular basis can be rewarding, it can prove to have its challenges too. You could find yourself jealous because your friendship with this person has shifted, or if the communication and friendship has been established it could be very rewarding to open up your two-some to a three-some with someone you know and love. It can be trickier so communication is even more important amongst you, your partner and friend.
Acquaintances or Online: Finding someone with whom you have not been intimately acquainted with through online sites or friends of friends can often be easier emotionally on you and your partner. There can be less emotional entanglements for everyone involved and can be easier to terminate the relationship if it is not working for you because you are not concerned about also loosing their friendship. One of the downsides to this arrangement is that sometimes you can find someone and they may not be compatible or other issues arise from not knowing them well. Make sure to have a good screening process in place and take tests for safety measures as well if you are planning in advance.

4. Safety: When leaving the relative safety of a monogamous relationship you must concern yourself with health issues such as STD testing and preventative measures. Always use a condom if you are sharing fluids with the third party, unless the three of you are monogamous only to each other and have all been tested for STD's and HIV. Also, with HIV you must wait for usually 6 months and then get tested again because certain antibodies may not show up right away, so if you're wishing to go the non-barrier method be sure to use a barrier for those 6 months before everyone gets tested again. Also barrier methods prevent unwanted pregnancies.

How to Use a Cock Ring

Cock rings provide are a fun and inexpensive way to try something new. They are designed to help the male enjoy stronger orgasms and longer lasting sessions. Many cock rings also hold a bullet for dual stimulation. These popular toys come in a range of materials and styles and are an enjoyable way of introducing more toys into your repertoire.

Traditional Cock Rings: Cock rings can become as elaborate or simple as you choose. The traditional silicone or leather cock rings are designed to slip around the base of the penis, or around the base of the penis and testicles to help maintain a harder and longer lasting erection. The snug fit also helps to give men a stronger and more intense orgasm. Rings made of silicone or rubber such as the Mega Stretch Silicone Ring or Erection Lasso have a large amount of stretch to them allowing them to easily accommodate most sizes comfortably while still providing enough tension. Leather cock rings such as the Spank Cock Ring has less elasticity to them so you need to use the various snaps to adjust the fit and comfort of the ring. As an added tip if you put the cock ring mid-way down your shaft you can give her the added benefit of sensation during intercourse, or you could even try multiple rings for a bumpy ride.

Vibrating Cock Rings: Vibrating cock rings are a fabulous invention; it turns your penis into a real live vibrator. The effect of the vibration is electrifying for both you and your partner, with the Big “O” or Disposable Vibe Ring you can place it so the is bullet above your shaft for optimal clitoral stimulation for her, or turn downwards with the bullet against your testicles for your benefit. The Bong “O” has an added pleasure ball which when the ring is tucked around your shaft and testicles the ball bounces against the sensitive perineum for added pleasure. And for the ultimate in duo pleasure cock ring, you can try the Tri-O, this inventive cock ring sits around the base of your penis with a bullet on top of the shaft for her and another bullet underneath the shaft for him…and with a perineum tickler too! The added bonus of the vibrating cock rings is that they provide more intense stimulation for both partners.

Remember: Safety First. Cock rings do have a time limit, we recommend removing them after 30 minutes of use to make sure you are not reducing blood flow to the penile tissue for an extended period of time. Also make sure to clean your cock rings with warm water and soap to make sure it's all clean and ready for you next go round.

Other toys such as the Betty Jo Dual Vibrator slip around the penis with an area for two bullets- one above and one below with a larger silicone cock ring to give your partner a strong clitoral stimulator. Also toys such as the Utopia Dual Action and Triple Action rings have a longer sleeve for the penis providing more girth.

So for your next new toy experience try the wonderful world of cock rings to help provide dual pleasure, longer lasting erections and stronger orgasms, you may be wondering why you waited so long!

The Low Down on Going Down

Going down on your partner is exciting because you are providing your partner with the ultimate sexual pleasure and demonstrating your skill as a lover but it can also be nerve racking if you don’t know what you are doing. We have outlined some very useful tips and techniques to help you take her to new heights of sexual pleasure so you can go down and have fun!

1. Position. Make sure both of you are comfortable. Use pillows beneath your knees if she is standing up so that you won’t be paying more attention to your aching knees than her sexual pleasure. Use pillows or positions aids such as the liberator to angle her hips for easy access. There are a number of ways to provide oral sex for your partner, you can have her straddling your face and holding herself balanced using the head board. This position is sexy and she can have more control. The traditional cunnilingus position with her laying on her back and you between her legs, this is especially good if she is feeling a little self conscious, or her standing and you kneeling between her legs, this appeals to the alpha females and gives you easy access to all her sexy parts.

2. Technique. Don’t just pull of her panties, take it slow, maybe tease through the fabric and tease and tantalize. Make sure you make an effort to relax your tongue as you don’t want it too stiff and pointed, especially in the beginning when it is nice to warm up with broader strokes. An especially great tongue technique is the figure eight, by moving your tongue around more sensitive areas and not just the clitoris you can really rev her engine. Be sure to vary your strokes, fast to slow, firm to gentle, zigzag your tongue and watch her body language because she will let you know which of those she likes best.

3. Lubes and Vibes. Sometimes it is fun to add a small vibrator such as the finger fun or the 5x Finger Vibe to your oral play, these small vibrators can help you bring her to intense orgasms. The fukuoku and finger vibe allow you to slip the vibe onto your finger so you can easily access her clitoris, labia and anus for a full range of vibration sensation. This can help take her over the edge into bliss. Lubricant can also be a fun addition, it is especially helpful if your mouth is feeling dry. There are some deliciously flavored natural lubricants such as the Hathor Flavored Lube or O’My on the market, these help to make you tongue slip and slide as well as taste delicious.

If you are wanting to learn more about how to take your oral sex techniques to new heights and provide even more pleasure then we recommend checking out the Low Down on Going Down Book, or if you’re a visual learner you can also try the Expert Guide to Oral Sex; Cunnilingus DVD. Also already packaged and ready for you is the Low Down on Going Down Honeycomb Gift box, it has everything you need all neatly packages for her oral pleasures!

How to Give a World-Class Blowjob

1. Choose your position carefully. The classic porn move that he'll be sure to love is him standing, leaning against a wall and you on your knees before him, it not only looks good but it also looks as if you are worshiping his body. Make sure you are comfortable, with pillows under your knees or if he is sitting or lying on the bed be sure you have enough support so that you are not putting all your weight on your elbows or arms. Being comfortable is important so that you can enjoy yourself without having to stop and think about any pain or discomfort.

2. Toys. Make sure to have any toys or plaything you wish to use on hand and within easy reach. The Blow Him Away Honeycomb Kit has a lot of fun items to help stimulate his sensitive spots, the finger toy can easily be slipped onto your finger or put on the popular Tongue Teaser so that you don't have to look for them later. Cock rings are also a fun addition to your play, it helps him last longer and makes the orgasm more intense, this is especially helpful if he gets a little too excited by your sexy mouth. The Spank Cock Ring and Erection Lasso are sexy options.

3. Techniques. Every guy likes to be touched differently. The best way to find out what he likes best is to ask. Or if you wish to be sneakier put your fingers in his mouth while you are playing with him, he'll most likely suck your finger the way he wants to be sucked, sneaky and you'll learn a thing or two about what he likes. Licking is often a great way to get started, using the flat side of your tongue you can go from tip to end like licking an ice cream cone. Spend some time enjoying this, pay attention to his tip as it is the most sensitive area but also to the entire length of the penis and the testicles. Make sure to be gentle when applying the teeth and watch to be sure you don't hurt him.

4. Tricks. Some interesting ways to spice things up and keep him guessing is to take a drink before hand of something slightly warm or cool, hold it in your mouth for a moment, swallow then slide your mouth over him. The coolness or added warmth to your mouth is an added bonus of sensation. Nipple Nibbler applied to your lips will have him tingling and tasting yummy. Other products designed for stimulating this erogenous area are Kama Sutra Pleasure Balm and Rocket Balm. The heating and tingling sensation will drive him wild! Also while you are using your mouth you can also involve your hands to the fun, using the finger vibes you can vibrate his perineum or anus for added pleasure, and wrapping your hand firmly around the base of the shaft and giving a hand-job while using your mouth is especially sexy.

**Make eye contact, it's sexy and will turn him on!**

5. Lubrication. Making the penis slick and slippery will also be very pleasurable. There are some fun choices available like flavored lubricants, warming lubricants, or others with a tingling or cooling sensations.

6. To swallow or not to swallow. It's your choice whether you want to swallow or not, but try to make the choice before hand so you know what you want to do as you near the end of your play. This avoids any awkwardness at the end. If you decide to swallow try to push him farther into your mouth so that you can bypass the tip of the tongue where most of the taste buds are or put him near you cheek and swallow in one gulp. Also you can hold onto his penis and rock him gently towards you to push him deeper into your mouth, sexy and effective. You can also pretend to swallow, by pushing your tongue against him while he's coming which allows you to push to the semen back out of your mouth and have it slide down his penis making him warm and slippery. This feels good for him and is a nice compromise. Or you can always allow him to ejaculate someplace else, pearl necklace perhaps?

7. Lastly; but VERY importantly, one of the key secrets to giving him a blowjob that will take his breath away and leave him your willing slave is simply enthusiasm. Honest enthusiasm to please and play with him is an aphrodisiac often ignored. Even the most skilled techniques are nothing if you are not really into what you are doing. So get ready to learn some easy ways to blow his mind and turn up the heat.

To learn more about giving a great blowjob, check out some very informative and fun books like Tickle His Pickle, Blow Him Away, or How to Be a Great Lover. If you learn better with visuals like a DVD, try Expert Guide to Oral Sex: Fellatio Sex Ed for a New Generation or How to Give a World-Class Blowjob DVD.

Couples Sex Toys: Twice as Nice!

Couples Sex Toys are a fantastic way to invite more play into the bedroom. There are a whole variety of toys designed for couples to help keep the bedroom play fun and exciting.


Couples Kits: Introductory couple's kits are a great way to try new and exciting toys together. The Silky Finish Couples Kit and Chocolate Couples Kit both contain a variety of toys to try together, giving you an opportunity to broaden your horizons and find out what you both enjoy.


Hands Free Toys: New products such as the We-Vibe and Impulse Butterfly Hands-Free Vibrator are a great way to enjoy intercourse with the added bonus of vibrations for both partners. The We-Vibe is designed to be worn during lovemaking. One part is inserted vaginally and slightly curved to hit the G-spot, the other end wraps around to massage the clitoris but small enough to still have intercourse. Delicious vibrations are felt by both partners! The Butterfly is an external toy that is strapped to the hips providing vibration for her clitorally as well as providing him with some external vibration during your sex play. Using the O Clitoral Pleasure Gel can also help enhance the fun by providing you with increased sensitivity and blood flow to the clitoris.


Remote Controlled Toys: Remote Bullets add a fun and naughty twist to your play time. The Silky Touch Remote Controlled Egg can be inserted on your way out the door to a party. Hand the remote off to your partner and allow him to provide you with a secret tease throughout the night. Then hurry home to finish what you've started. For an external remote vibrator the Astrea II is another option, simply slip the vibe into the front of your undergarment and your partner can send you secret “love touches”.


Vibrating Cock Rings: Many women need a little extra vibration help to take them over the edge to orgasm during intercourse. Vibrating cock rings are an easy way to add vibration to your play. The Vibrating Disposable Ring or Big “O” ring can be easily slipped on and the vibration is exciting for both partners, the vibrator massages her clitoris during intercourse but delightful vibrations are sent down into his shaft as well providing intense orgasms for both! The Bong “O” Vibrating Cockring is another fun toy with an attached pleasure ball for extra excitement. Keep in mind when using a cockring that the ring can rest at the bottom of the shaft or behind the testicles.


Harnesses and Dual Toys: Anal play is an exciting and pleasurable addition to your routine. There are many harnesses available for her to slip on and use. The Bend Over Beginner Kit is a great kit to introduce the enjoyment of anal play for him. Another fun option is the Fun Factory Share Dildo.


Wish you a romantic, playful and sexy Valentines Day!

New Years Resolution: Put yourself First…Female Masturbation

Masturbation is healthy. It has many emotional and physical benefits and best of all it feels good. So this year we should promote self awareness and discovery, both emotionally and physically. Start by taking your pleasure to new heights all by yourself, and you will find that by learning your body you will help both your relationship with yourself, but also with your partner.

Preparing yourself for Pleasure

There are many ways in which you can prepare yourself to give yourself pleasure, just as you would if you were preparing for a partner.

Make yourself feel sexy. Just as if you were getting ready for a hot date with your partner, preparing yourself for a fun evening home alone is also beneficial. Shaving and trimming your hair, from your legs to you pubic area will help make you feel beautiful, you feel sexy. Having a long and sensual bath to help yourself relax and enjoy your body is also and fun way to prepare for the bedroom.

Set up your room. Prepare the room in which you plan to enjoy yourself. Light your favorite scented candles and turn on some music, turn down the lights and put any toys, lubricant or erotic literature you plan to use within easy reach.

The best advice would be to be relaxed as you masturbate. Involve all parts of your body like the breasts and nipples. Become aware of how it feels to you so you can bring that feeling back or share it with your lover later. Don’t try to have an orgasm, just release yourself and enjoy your body. Give yourself permission to experience intense sexual pleasure.

Accessories: Toys, Books, DVDs

There is no right or wrong way to masturbate; as long as it feels good then it is good. Women can use anything from your fingertips to toys and anything from books to videos to enhance their pleasure.

Clitoral Vibrators: Vibrating toys are a fun and satisfying way to enhance your sensual pleasure. They help by providing the intense vibration externally to your clitoris and vulva area. This can help bring orgasm much quicker and with more intensity. Some popular clitoral vibrators are the Lelo Nea and the Fun Factory Layaspot. They have a great curve that fits nicely over the women’s pelvis and a variable speed button so you can choose the right intensity for you. Tease yourself at the low speed or fast and intense.

Internal Vibrator or Dildos: Dildos and vibrators that can be used internally as well as externally are especially fun and fulfilling. You can get the fullness and penetration from these toys or use them externally for clitoral stimulation. Dildos such as the Fun Factory Curve do not provide any vibration so it is often nice to add a clitoral vibrator like the simple Silver Bullet for external pleasure. Or use a dual action sex toy like the Rabbit Habit that provides both internal penetration as well as clitoral stimulation at the same time. Have you tried stimulating your G-spot? Customer favorites have been the Lelo Gigi or the G-spot E-glass. You don’t need to penetrate your vagina with toys but it may help, it is a personal preference.

Books and DVDs: Erotic literature and movies are sexy and exciting ways to rev your mind and body into thinking and feeling sensual and excited. Books such as The Mammoth Book of Erotica or Aqua Erotica are easy to read and provide an exciting array of fantasies to prime your mind into thinking sensually. Arousing the largest sexual organ-the brain; will arouse your body. Studies have shown women are just as aroused as men when it comes to watching erotic movies. You just need to do a bit of research as to which movies would be more appealing to you. There are plenty of X-rated films now directed by women for women.

Masturbation is meant to be a fun and enjoyable way of self discovery, free from guilt and worry. It is a healthy and beautiful way to enjoy yourself, and learn about your sensual body and all the orgasmic pleasures it can receive. This new communication with yourself is often helpful both in your sexual relationships but also in loving yourself more completely. So in 2009, love yourself and have fun doing it!

Aphrodisiac Recipes to Heat Up the Holidays

Aphrodisiacs have been used throughout history to woo a partner and create sexual arousal. Foods containing aphrodisiacs are thought to work by raising the sex hormones in the body creating sexual excitement.

Try some fun recipes loaded with aphrodisiac ingredients to heat up the holidays!

FAUX CHAMPAGNE

This recipe tastes fantastic and does not contain alcohol, add some romantic additions to the drink such as strawberries or rose petals and you will be sure to impress.

4 cups chilled club soda
4 cups chilled gingerale
3 cups chilled white grape juice
Mix and pour chilled into champagne flutes.
To make an incredible erotic visual try FAUX PINK CHAMPAGNE by adding 1/4 cup grenadine syrup to the recipe.

For something warm and hot try this lovely coffee drink, perfect for a romantic morning wake up or an evening by the fire place in one another’s arms.

ROMANTIC COFFEE

2 cups hot cocoa
2 cups brewed coffee
1 tsp. cinnamon flavoring
2 Tbsp. Coffeemate or Cream
2 tsp. sugar
1/4 tsp. cardamom
Mix together. Serve hot. Makes 2 tall cups to sip slowly by the fireside.

HAM 'N' OYSTERS APPETIZERS

Take sliced sandwich ham and spread horseradish over each slice. Each slice should do two oysters. Drain and rinse one can whole oysters. Wrap one oyster in a piece of ham and secure it with a toothpick. Serve with a dish of hot melted butter for dipping.

CHAMPAGNE CHICKEN ENTREE

In a baking pan that you can cover place 1 onion sliced. Put one whole chicken on top of the onions. Around the chicken place 1 pkg. frozen peas, 1 bag carrots, 4 potatoes cut up in chunks, In a bowl mix the following and pour over the entire dish: 2 Tbsp. Worcestershire sauce, 1 tsp. each basil and oregano, 1-1/2 tsp. dry mustard, 8 tsp. butter, 3 Tbsp. lemon juice, 4 cups Faux Champagne, and 1 can cream of mushroom soup. Cover the dish and bake at 400 degrees for one hour.

BETTER THAN SEX CAKE

Mix 1 pkg. German Chocolate Cake Mix according to directions on box. When done poke holes all over the top of the 13 X 9 inch cake. Pour caramel sauce all over the top letting it go down into all the holes in the cake. Mix a container Cool Whip with 1 small can flaked coconut and spread it over the cake evenly. Crush two Heath Toffee Candy bars and sprinkle them over the cake. Melt two squares of chocolate candy and swirl them on top of the Cool Whip with a toothpick. Sprinkle 1/2 cup chopped nuts over topping. Chill until time to serve.

Take turns feeding each other this decadent desert!

Don’t forget about setting the right mood! It is important to bring the right atmosphere together to seduce the senses of your lover. Candles such as the Jimmy Jane Afterglow Massage candles or the Soy Massage Candles play double duty providing a gentle light and soft scent to start off the mood and having the alternative purpose of being a warm massage oil. A sprinkling of silk rose petals from our Bed of Roses across the bed and floor, music from Exotica Chocotasy CD and some sexy goodies such as the romantic pleasure feather and Ceramic massage stone help complete the experience.

The most powerful aphrodisiac of all is the pure enjoyment of one another. Spending some extra time over the holidays to relax with one another in a sensual atmosphere will do wonders for your relationship and sexual enjoyment.