New Years Resolution: Put yourself First…Female Masturbation

Masturbation is healthy. It has many emotional and physical benefits and best of all it feels good. So this year we should promote self awareness and discovery, both emotionally and physically. Start by taking your pleasure to new heights all by yourself, and you will find that by learning your body you will help both your relationship with yourself, but also with your partner.

Preparing yourself for Pleasure

There are many ways in which you can prepare yourself to give yourself pleasure, just as you would if you were preparing for a partner.

Make yourself feel sexy. Just as if you were getting ready for a hot date with your partner, preparing yourself for a fun evening home alone is also beneficial. Shaving and trimming your hair, from your legs to you pubic area will help make you feel beautiful, you feel sexy. Having a long and sensual bath to help yourself relax and enjoy your body is also and fun way to prepare for the bedroom.

Set up your room. Prepare the room in which you plan to enjoy yourself. Light your favorite scented candles and turn on some music, turn down the lights and put any toys, lubricant or erotic literature you plan to use within easy reach.

The best advice would be to be relaxed as you masturbate. Involve all parts of your body like the breasts and nipples. Become aware of how it feels to you so you can bring that feeling back or share it with your lover later. Don’t try to have an orgasm, just release yourself and enjoy your body. Give yourself permission to experience intense sexual pleasure.

Accessories: Toys, Books, DVDs

There is no right or wrong way to masturbate; as long as it feels good then it is good. Women can use anything from your fingertips to toys and anything from books to videos to enhance their pleasure.

Clitoral Vibrators: Vibrating toys are a fun and satisfying way to enhance your sensual pleasure. They help by providing the intense vibration externally to your clitoris and vulva area. This can help bring orgasm much quicker and with more intensity. Some popular clitoral vibrators are the Lelo Nea and the Fun Factory Layaspot. They have a great curve that fits nicely over the women’s pelvis and a variable speed button so you can choose the right intensity for you. Tease yourself at the low speed or fast and intense.

Internal Vibrator or Dildos: Dildos and vibrators that can be used internally as well as externally are especially fun and fulfilling. You can get the fullness and penetration from these toys or use them externally for clitoral stimulation. Dildos such as the Fun Factory Curve do not provide any vibration so it is often nice to add a clitoral vibrator like the simple Silver Bullet for external pleasure. Or use a dual action sex toy like the Rabbit Habit that provides both internal penetration as well as clitoral stimulation at the same time. Have you tried stimulating your G-spot? Customer favorites have been the Lelo Gigi or the G-spot E-glass. You don’t need to penetrate your vagina with toys but it may help, it is a personal preference.

Books and DVDs: Erotic literature and movies are sexy and exciting ways to rev your mind and body into thinking and feeling sensual and excited. Books such as The Mammoth Book of Erotica or Aqua Erotica are easy to read and provide an exciting array of fantasies to prime your mind into thinking sensually. Arousing the largest sexual organ-the brain; will arouse your body. Studies have shown women are just as aroused as men when it comes to watching erotic movies. You just need to do a bit of research as to which movies would be more appealing to you. There are plenty of X-rated films now directed by women for women.

Masturbation is meant to be a fun and enjoyable way of self discovery, free from guilt and worry. It is a healthy and beautiful way to enjoy yourself, and learn about your sensual body and all the orgasmic pleasures it can receive. This new communication with yourself is often helpful both in your sexual relationships but also in loving yourself more completely. So in 2009, love yourself and have fun doing it!

Creating a Boudoir Toy Box

“Remember the Toy box you had as a kid? Make an adult version, then take turns picking and playing…” (Tracy Cox Super Sex Deck)

Even though you have to “grow up” it doesn’t mean you still can’t have your childish desires. Picking your favorite toy from a toy box brimming full can provide just as much pleasure now as it did so long ago. With the holiday season past and the excitement of spring around the corner its time to start taking stock of your toys and renewing the old or starting off with the new.

A toy box is more than just a few vibrators, its full of wondrous items that will provide hours of sensual stimulation, laughs and fun. Your adult toy box should be full of everything you fancy, from of course your vibrators and dildos, to erotic books, DVD’s, edible goodies, massage and bondage. From sweet to racy your box should speak to your every desire and mood. So here are some fun ideas to fill your box with some sexy and fun items to get started!

Pleasure Toys: At least one or more vibrator such as the Lelo Gigi which will provide you with the option of internal or external stimulation, and is curved for the g-spot to boot. Other fun gadgets could include erotic videos and sex aids and even a Polaroid or digital camera for some sexy shots to share.

Dress-up: Any good toy box should have some dress up. From the traditional role-play costumes like the Naughty Nurse to leather corsets and whips to help act out any fantasy.

Laughs: Anything edible helps the laughter roll, especially if it can be licked, sucked or rubbed off, such as the candy g-string and bra or body licks. For more fun and laughter using sexy board games like the Hot Affair game or using Tracy Cox’s Super Sex Deck to help make your evenings a fun filled sexy event.

Good Reads: Erotica is always a good way to rev your engines and get the evening off to the right start. Whether a book such as Sweetlife or with the help of magazines, you should always have a few good options at your disposal.

Bondage: Silk stockings or sexy bondage scarves, bondage has never been more fun than with the addition of our new Babushka line. Made in Vancouver B.C. (name) has created a sexy line of tie up solutions that are beautiful silk and fun colors. You will want to leave them out all the time they are so fantastically soft and beautiful. If silk is not your style we have fantastic furry cuffs and the under the bed bondage kit for something a little more hard core. Whatever your fancy, bondage whether light or intense should have a part of your toy box.

If your concerns about your children or stray guests pawing through your box of goodies than we suggest investing in a fun and sexy locked box. Your toys can be hidden away and there are lots of different styles out there that you could find something beautiful as a décor statement as well as a functional hidy hole for toys. Another fantastic hiding spot for your box is high up in the upper part of your closet, as long as you are tall enough to reach and your little ones are still little than you can have piece of mind. Just make sure to send them off to bed early and lock the doors to make a sensual atmosphere when you and your partner wish to pull out your toys and set up and evening of sensual fun and delight.

For more ideas and suggestions like the ones above check out the Super Sex Deck by Tracy Cox, her fantastic deck provides you wish fun and sexy ideas for many cozy nights together.

Great Sexual Arousal Techniques

Getting aroused is all about preparing your body for the act itself. Your heart kicks it up a notch, blood pressure rises and muscles tense. Blood flow to your nether-regions increases, making it hard to think.

Here are some ideas on how to turn guys and gals on:

• For her, many consider the clitoris the golden ticket.
  Massaging with a gel will keep things slick while boosting her sensitivity by increasing blood flow to the clitoris. Plus, adding clitoral stimulation while also stimulating the G-spot will send her over the top. Not just for use with a partner, it will help a woman help herself. (We recommend O Clitoral Stimulating Gel)



• But don’t dive for the clit right away.
  Start with massaging her other parts. Breast stimulation is fun for both him and her.



• For him, it’s visual and tactile. For her, it just feels darn good when done right.
  Symmetry, equal attention to both sides, is essential, as is starting slowly and gently. No cold hands please – massage oil can help keep things warm. Most importantly, read her cues. Some women prefer you keep it gentle, while others enjoy a nip. (To help tease and add a tasty sensation,we recommend using a flavored lube or Kama Sutra Honey Dust.)
  
  
• Less explicit things.
  Sexual arousal is often piqued by less explicit things and can start with seemingly non-sexy acts such as her partner taking out the garbage or preparing dinner, not to mention cleaning up afterwards
  
  
• Physical affection without sex helps up arousal.
  Touching – hugs, cuddles, kisses – all build the electricity for her. When having sexual contact, build it up with plenty of foreplay, focusing on the whole body, not just her sexual bits.
  
  
• Separate from work.
  Separate stress from work and other outside sources from your life as a couple. An added bonus is stress release can lead to sex, sex being the ultimate in stress release. Does your partner like a deep or gentle massage? You never know where a well-timed foot rub may lead.
  
  
• More than just Pete.
  Though men and women alike joke that men can only function mentally when their other head is not in use, to truly arouse a guy, it’s about more than just Pete – remember the boys, the neighboring perineum, and sometimes a little anal play is more than welcome.
  
  
• Mouthwash adds sensation.
  More suction doesn’t necessarily translate to good head. Teasingly licking his balls and shaft will help build up to the moment. Gargling with mouthwash beforehand, in addition to giving you minty fresh breath, will give him a tingly sensation.
  
  
• Stimulate his P-spot.
  While giving him head or hand, help finish him off with a perineal massage or stimulate his P-spot (prostate) with butt play. The perineum is the super sensitive spot between his testicles and anus. Press firmly and pump with a finger or knuckle to send him over the edge. Straight men who claim their butt is one-way only have likely never had the nerve-rich anus explored. A lot of lube, gentle touch and small toy. (We recommend the Finger Fun Vibrator - it can be a real eye opener. )
  
  
• Visual turn-ons.
  Then there are the visual turn-ons. Looking for something you can enjoy together, beginning to end? How about shopping for porn together? Yes, women like and are turned on by porn. It just has to be the right kind – there’s more out there than ‘70s porn with bad music and bad facial hair. The selection is tremendous, with women-directed flicks, natural bodied actors, plot-filled films and out-and-out sexfests.
  
  
• Suggested Reading material for him.
  Sexpert Lou Paget’s How To Give Her Absolute Pleasure book is chock full of ideas on how to build intensity.
  
  
• Suggested Reading material for her.
  Paget explores how to blow his mind too in How To Be a Great Lover. It’s about more than the penis, from his neck down to his perineum, testicles and, ahem, into his P-spot (prostate).

G spot 101

Pleasure Hunt
Named for German physician Ernst Grafenberg, who first discovered it, the G-spot is located a couple of inches inside the entrance to the vagina, above the pubic bone on the front of the vaginal wall.

New to G-spot stimulation? Start with some hands-on exploration on your own. Insert one or two fingers into your vagina and bend them towards the front wall, applying pressure toward the pubic bone until you feel a small, bean-sized, slightly ridged mass of firm tissue. Feel a pleasant sensation? You’ve hit the spot.

Now What?
Delicate caresses and in-and-out movements? Forget ‘em. The G-spot responds best to firm pressure and quick, rubbing strokes. For the multi-taskers in the group, try stimulating the G-spot and clitoris simultaneously. Yowza! Ready to let your partner in on the party? The best sex positions for G-spot stimulation are female superior (facing away from your partner) or doggy style.

The Big OOOOH!
Ok, you say, but what does it feel like? The truth is, no two women respond to G-spot stimulation in the same way. Some gals find it pleasant but hardly earth shattering. Others find it downright uncomfortable. And yes, it’s true, some women experience intense sensations and orgasms that register on the Richter scale.

Finding and understanding your G-spot takes patience, practice and a little play. So relax, check your Type A tendencies at the door and enjoy the ride.

Looking for sex toys to hit your G-spot? I recommend the Silicone Starlight G-Spot , Fun Factory G-Spot Worm Vibrator or the Crystalessence Chubby G-Spot Vibrator .

Also bundled up for you is the Hit the Spot Gift Box

How to give great head for your lover

You're now into the faster, rhythmical phase he's been aching for. So get comfortable-it's going to get wild! Try the tips techniques from Sadie Allisons book "Tickle his Pickle" as your starting point and improvise from there.

Here are some of the many suggestions from her book - Be sure to include these Bj-boosters in your bedroom next time you are in the mood!:

• You only need to put his penis into your mouth as far as you feel comfortable. You can start shallow, and increase the depth slowly.
• No need to limit yourself to one technique - try three or more in the same session, along with different speeds, pressures, grips and motions. Slow down, speed up. Keep him guessing what's next.
• Pay attention to what's going on inside your mouth. Make sure it's always nice n' slipery, keep your teeth out of the way, run his head along the roof of your mouth for a bumpy ridge effect, lick the tip of his head whiles it's inside and swirl on it with your tongue.
• Look at him seductively through your hanging hair. Later, tie it back so he can see you. Or ask him to hold it for you. Look up into his eyes while you're pleasing him, grin seductively and whisper, "Do you like that baby?"
• If you get dry, sip more water or just drizzle on more flavoured lube. Don't be shy-make a sexy production out of it.
• Be noisy. He loves the sounds of sucking, oohing and aah-ing, as well as the vibrations of you humming.
• Now break out the vibrators! Give him the wonderful sensation of vibrations along with the soft warm feel of your mouth.

Men, Do They Know it All?

It makes me wonder, do men just know it all when it comes to sex? The reason I ask such a question is because our retail store; Honey, has been here for three years and we notice certain patterns.
We stock a variety of books covering a range of topics and there are some books that offer a 'his' and 'her' version. They usually cover techniques to improve your love making and we always seem to sell out of the instructional ones for women about men. We now tend to order a ratio of 4:1 for women!
Lucky for many men, there are alot of women educating themselves to becoming a better lover!

Just makes you wonder.....do they know it all?:)

Karyee @ Honey: Vancouver, BCs' upscale sex shop.

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