Pegging

There has been a tremendous increase in anal play between straight men and women (also known as pegging) over the eight years Honey has been in business. We are delighted to see how sexually at ease many couples have become. The stigma that one must be gay or anal sex damages ones body has been debunked and we have some tips to share on how to enjoy anal play safely while making the experience even more pleasurable for both partners.

Anal play is a great way to stimulate the prostate (p-spot), which is the male equivalent of the female g-spot. The prostate can be easily stimulated with a well-lubed finger curved towards the belly button two to three inches into the rectum. A man can have an orgasm just by slowly stimulating the prostate or intensify his orgasm by stimulating both the p-spot and the penis. A small vibrating toy or a full dildo preferable with a curve can be an excellent addition. The important thing to remember about anal play is that it is suppose to be fun and pleasurable, so communicating what you like or dislike is key to enjoying yourself. Take your time and go slowly with plenty of foreplay.

Key Points of Enjoyable Anal Play/Pegging:

1. Cleanliness: Good hygiene is important when exploring anal play; be sure to keep your hands clean and your nails trimmed when using fingers to explore. Make sure you have chosen toys that can be easily cleaned and/or sterilized after use and NEVER insert anything that has been in your anus into your vagina or mouth until after it has been cleaned.

2. Communication: Making sure to keep the lines of communication open at all times. From initiating anal play all the way to enjoying it, you want to make sure your partner is comfortable with each step along the way.

3. Relaxation: Anal play can be painful especially if you have not taken the time to prepare yourself and relax into the sensation. Rushing can cause discomfort and can make you or your partner resistant to trying it again, so make sure to take your time and go at a comfortable pace for both you and your partner.

4. Lubrication: ALWAYS USE LUBE. The anus itself does not produce any lubrication and if you try to play with dry skin you can easily hurt the thin skin of the rectum. To help ease the way for your fingers or toys, it is essential to use a good lubricant for a comfortable and enjoyable back door play session. Apply lubricant liberally and don't be afraid to add more during, it will only increase the pleasure. Some great suggestions for anal play are Slippery Stuff water based lubricant. This lube is gel like in texture providing a thicker barrier between the toy/finger and delicate anal tissue. Another good option is a silicone based lubricant because they do not dry out even under water. Try ID Millennium or Jo Silicone based lubricant, but make sure you don't use the silicone lube with a silicone sex toy.

5. Once you've mastered the basics and feel comfortable with anal play you can introduce toys, harnesses, and dildos and so much more into your anal play.

Harnesses: Using a harness allows you to strap a dildo to yourself with comfort and stability. It also allows you the versatility of changing the size of your dildos with interchangeable rings that can accommodate different sizes. The Venus Leather Harness and Vibrating Velvet Corset Harness are both sturdy and allow for different sizes of dildos while still being soft and comfortable.

Dildos: You may prefer to start with a smaller dildo when first venturing into anal play as this can help ease the transition from fingers to toys without being too imposing. The Bend Over Beginner kit provides you with a velvet harness and two different sizes of dildos to transition you from a smaller dildo to larger one and accommodating rings for even larger dildos if you desire. The Fun Factory Bandito and Tiger are flexible silicone dildos with wide bases that can easily fit into harnesses to provide different textures and curves for more variety in sensation. When using a dildo we recommend using one with a slight curve upwards to help stimulate the prostate and fit more naturally with the body.

Double Ended Dildos: The double ended dildo is a great way to experience anal play without the harness getting in the way of skin on skin contact. This type of dildo also provides both partners with simultaneous stimulation. The Fun Factory Share and Tango allow you to insert the bean shaped blunt end into your vagina and you hold it in place with the strength of your kegal muscles. The vaginal end also curves for g-spot stimulation in her. After you have inserted the `bean' shaped end, you are left with the dildo pointed outward and held close to your body so you can enjoy the sensual skin to skin contact during your anal play. These sex toys can also be inserted into a harness when first starting out so that you can strengthen your kegal muscles before trying it on its own. The Tango also has the added benefit of a hole at the base of the toy for inserting a bullet so you get the benefit of vibrations sent down the shaft and into the vaginal end.

Always remember that anal sex is not supposed to hurt. If it is painful, stop and engage in more foreplay or try it again another night. If you are concerned about cleanliness, you can always use an anal douche with warm water 1-2 hours before you engage in anal play.

Educate yourself with wonderful DVDs such as The Better Sex Guide to Anal Pleasure and Tristan Taormino's Expert Guide to Anal Sex.

Safe Sex is SEXY!

When we think about exciting sex, spontaneity comes to mind. Practicing safe sex requires some advance planning which seems to go against the possibility of an exciting rendezvous but here are some fun ideas to bring into the boudoir…that is safe and sexy!

1. Educate you and set boundaries. It is a good idea to have a basic understanding of the possible sexually transmitted diseases that can be contracted from having unsafe sex. With a good understanding of how these can be transmitted and what the risks are you will have a better ability to set your boundaries for how much you are willing to risk. Masturbation is about the only 100% safe sex you can have so unless you want to only play with yourself you need to decide what risks you are willing to take with your health and safety. Once you've set your boundaries you will know what you are comfortable with and can proceed to having fun.

2. Safe Sex Tools. It is a good idea to have a fun arsenal of safe sex supplies easily available and within reach of your play area.

-Condoms: There are plenty of choices now when it comes to condoms from size, texture and flavor as well as material. Have a variety of condoms to choose from can add to the excitement. People with latex allergies can use condoms like Avanti that are made from polyurethane. Extra thin condoms such as Kimono Microthin or Contempo Bareback are very thin providing extra sensation while maintaining strength and effectiveness. Kimono Type E and Contempo Erotica have texture such as studs and ribbing to provide more sensation for your partner during intercourse. Flavored condoms are especially popular for oral sex. There are also condoms with different shapes like Pleasure Plus and sizes like Kimono Large for even more choice.

-Dams: Dams are very effective for oral stimulation of the vagina or anus. They protect while providing a barrier between the your mouth and your lovers body while still being thin enough to feel all the wonderful sensations. Sheer Glyde Dams are available in yummy strawberry and vanilla. Dams also provide an extra sensory awareness because they do not absorb the lubricant allowing it to maintain slippery and wet. They slide and glide along the intimate body part providing a very pleasurable feeling. As well, as they can be gently snapped or nibbled on for a variety of sensations.

-Latex Gloves: Latex gloves and finger condoms can be found in most drug stores and are perfect to use when playing with your hands against intimate areas. They can be turned easily into a dam if you don't have any on hand.

3. Sex Tricks. A few fun tricks to try to make safe sex even more satisfying!

-Try putting the condom on with your mouth, it's easy - just tuck the tip behind your front teeth and hold in place with your tongue. Then roll down with your lips until it's on snug, we recommend practicing a few times on a banana or sex toy to get the hang of it.

-Use a cock ring that vibrates such as the Big O or Disposable Vibe Ring.

Vibrating cock rings will hold a condom snug in place while providing vibrations for both you and your partner.

-When using a dam try gently snapping the dam against the body, nibbling and sucking. These sensations will feel completely new and exciting through a dam and very invigorating.

-Creating a dam from latex gloves is easy! Just snip the fingers off the glove and make a vertical slip up the side for a flat dam. You can also keep the thumb part intact and make the slit up the opposite side, this gives you a pouch to add a toy or for insertion with your finger.

-Lubricant: Using a lubricant can help enhance your sex play in so many ways. The lubrication will help you slip and slide and when applied into the tip of the condom before slipping it on, you can add extra sensation and feeling for him. Adding flavored lubricants such as the Jo Flavored or O'My Flavored Lubricants help during oral stimulation especially if you do not care for the taste of latex. Tingling and warming lubricants such as the Climax Bursts Tingling or Pink Warming lubricants add wonderful new sensations and pleasure for both partners. They can be added to a condom or beneath a dam. They can also be added for manual hand stimulation. There are also cooling lubricants such as the Climax Bursts Cooling for even more variety in sensations. These lubricants can also be used on your nipples and lips for exciting kisses.

4. Toys and Safe Sex. When adding adult toys to your sex play, always cover them up with a condom. This will help to prevent transfer and also helps to make clean up easier. For toys without a motor, sterilizing your toy by boiling in water will keep them clean and fresh. Remember when switching between vaginal and anal play to either use a completely different toy for each area or change condoms between each use so that you do not get an infection.

You can be smart by practicing safe sex to prevent sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies… but still maintain a fun and adventurous sexual lifestyle. With a little creativity and imagination safe sex practices become a whole new experience and you'll be enjoying yourself immensely while playing it safe!