Playful Positions for Fuller Figures

Pregnancy is a beautiful time for you and your partner, but sometime the beautiful belly starts to get in the way of your more traditional positions. Here are some fun varieties to try that are comfortable and safe for mommy and baby.

Soft Landing: Stack a pile of soft and fluffy pillows underneath your stomach and chest to cushion and support your body and neck. You will have comfort against the support and he has access to your body from behind. This position allows for adding a little anal play into the equation. The Havana Tush Toy kit can be used with or without vibrations. Using just the tip of the plug for external stimulation of the bum can be a lot of fun. In this position he should avoid pumping too hard or deep.

Wheelbarrow: This position is comfortable and easy. Simply lay curled on your side at the edge of your mattress with your neck and shoulder propped comfortably by a few soft and fluffy pillows. He stands between your butt and knees for easy penetration, and he will enjoy a wonderful view of you. In this position he can easily reach around and stimulate your clitoris with a small and compact Fuzuoku Finger Vibrator. Use the finger sex toy to slowly tease and tantalize!

Belly Up: Bracing yourself up against a headboard or wall allows for a shallower penetration that is pleasurable and fun. It also gives him access to touch your breasts, belly and clitoris softly. We recommend using pillows beneath your knees for comfort and support. Combining this with a couples toy like the Diving Dolphin can triple your pleasure! This toy comes with two bullets-one that vibrates against her clitoris as well as one underneath that stimulates him and her!

As you move along in your pregnancy we recommend visiting your doctor, intercourse should be fine if your pregnancy is progressing normally but if you have any complications be sure to discuss frankly with your doctor what you can and can not do.

Hello to all you voluptuous ladies out there. We’ve created a section just for you, to help you discover some creative and ingenious solutions to some playful positions. Being a plus size lady has many challenges with body image and some positions just don’t work. But instead of worrying about all that we’ve come up with a few fail safe solutions to just enjoy sex, no matter your size.

No Ouch Couch: The couch is perfect for sex furniture. Using the seat cushion to support you upper body and having more pillows supporting your arms and neck as well as cushioning your knees. You will feel cushioned and comfortable allowing him access from behind for deep penetration. This position is great for him to reach around to stimulate your nipples with some Ice Queen Nipple Gel or placing a compact mini vibrator on his finger like the Five Function Finger Vibe to slowly massage your clitoris. This position is also super for pleasuring the nerve rich anal area. Start slowly stimulating the outside with a small well lubricated butt plug like the Silicone Pleasure Plug or insert some small anal beads like the Fun Factory Bendy Beads. The beads are slowly pulled out during an orgasm providing a more intense experience.

Deep Mission: Continuing our couch theme, if you throw the back cushions to the side you will create a deeper couch on which to enjoy yourselves. You can lay back, get comfortable and open you legs wide for a deeper missionary penetration. The intimacy of gazing into each others eyes and giving him access to your breast and clitoris will make this an all around enjoyable position. If you find pillows too soft, a wonderful option would be The Liberator Sex Furniture. These triangular shapes allow you to move into unlimited positions while providing firm support. You won’t be limited by where you can and cannot have sex. The triangle shapes make it easy to slip into narrow spaces when not in use.

Good Headboard: Sometime being on top when you are a voluptuous lady can be awkward and uncomfortable. If you try using the head board as leverage you can lift and support your body with ease and the leverage allows you to speed up the action. This position gives him the added advantage of being able to lay back and have access to your clitoris. A vibrating cock ring like the Utopia Triple Action can be a fabulous addition to this position as it allows you full control of how much stimulation you want on your clitoris. You can tease yourself until you’re ready to orgasm. This couple’s sex toy also has an extra testicle ring for him-intensifying his orgasm.

To see more of these playful positions see Ride'em Cowgirl by Sadie Allison.

Honey's Q & A: After Pregnancy Intimacy

Q: I had a baby two months ago. My heart and brain are screaming for sex, but my body is still saying ‘no way!’ Will I ever be able to enjoy sex again?

A: Congratulations on the new addition to your family. You can certainly enjoy sex after pregnancy. The key is going slow and listening to your body.

Much will depend on how much wear and tear you experienced while giving birth. If you were torn or had an episiotomy, it could take longer before you truly feel comfortable during sex. Exactly how long depends on a number of things, including how long you normally take to heal, the extent of tearing or type of episiotomy, length of labor and whether the delivery was assisted by forceps or vacuum extraction.

Kegel exercises, up to 100 per day, are one step to getting your pelvic floor muscles strong again. Find the muscles by imagining you’re urinating. Squeeze the muscles as if you were stopping the flow of urine. Let go and try again. Squeeze and release repeatedly to strengthen the vaginal muscles. Adding a toy designed to help with Kegels such as Smart Balls or Lelo Luna Luxury Balls can be helpful and fun.

Even without tears, you will likely notice your vagina does not lubricate as well as before. This is due to low levels of estrogen. Also, breastfeeding can increase dryness as lactating women produce fewer of the ovarian hormones that make you lubricate. This means a good water-based lube is a must.

Plenty of foreplay is essential too. Not only will it help move lubrication along, but if your body isn’t feeling up to the act itself, foreplay can be the main event. Plenty of cuddling, petting, oral sex and mutual masturbation will help keep you and your partner physically close.

As your body heals, you may find certain sexual positions you enjoyed pre-pregnancy and even while pregnant no longer feel comfortable. Rather than dwelling on this as a negative, use it as an opportunity to try new positions. You may be pleasantly surprised. Side-to-side or woman-on-top positions will allow you more control and put less stress on body parts that may still be healing.

Most of all keep communicating with your partner and keep a sense of humor. If pain persists, see your doctor.