Honey's Q & A: After Pregnancy Intimacy

Q: I had a baby two months ago. My heart and brain are screaming for sex, but my body is still saying ‘no way!’ Will I ever be able to enjoy sex again?

A: Congratulations on the new addition to your family. You can certainly enjoy sex after pregnancy. The key is going slow and listening to your body.

Much will depend on how much wear and tear you experienced while giving birth. If you were torn or had an episiotomy, it could take longer before you truly feel comfortable during sex. Exactly how long depends on a number of things, including how long you normally take to heal, the extent of tearing or type of episiotomy, length of labor and whether the delivery was assisted by forceps or vacuum extraction.

Kegel exercises, up to 100 per day, are one step to getting your pelvic floor muscles strong again. Find the muscles by imagining you’re urinating. Squeeze the muscles as if you were stopping the flow of urine. Let go and try again. Squeeze and release repeatedly to strengthen the vaginal muscles. Adding a toy designed to help with Kegels such as Smart Balls or Lelo Luna Luxury Balls can be helpful and fun.

Even without tears, you will likely notice your vagina does not lubricate as well as before. This is due to low levels of estrogen. Also, breastfeeding can increase dryness as lactating women produce fewer of the ovarian hormones that make you lubricate. This means a good water-based lube is a must.

Plenty of foreplay is essential too. Not only will it help move lubrication along, but if your body isn’t feeling up to the act itself, foreplay can be the main event. Plenty of cuddling, petting, oral sex and mutual masturbation will help keep you and your partner physically close.

As your body heals, you may find certain sexual positions you enjoyed pre-pregnancy and even while pregnant no longer feel comfortable. Rather than dwelling on this as a negative, use it as an opportunity to try new positions. You may be pleasantly surprised. Side-to-side or woman-on-top positions will allow you more control and put less stress on body parts that may still be healing.

Most of all keep communicating with your partner and keep a sense of humor. If pain persists, see your doctor.

Erotic Movies For Couples

The brisk chill in the air, rain, sleet and hail are precluding the wonder of the winter months. With the end of day light savings the nights creep up sooner and we must take shelter in the comfort of fuzzy covers and body heat. So what better way to spend those cozy nights snuggled together than to watch a movie?

Statistics have shown that it’s no longer men who monopolize visual stimulation. In a recent study it has been shown that 75% of couples are now enjoying erotic videos to spice things up. Allowing you to possibly re-enact you favorite parts or just enjoy the show! With the coming of the chills we’ve brought in a fun new selection of sexy pornography videos to heat up the blankets and warm your toes.

If it is your first time entering the world of erotic movies, we recommend going for the classics. With Jenna Jameson is the Masseuse you have the original and the new version, its two videos in one! It shows us the fun and exciting life of a masseuse as she reveals her favorite games to play with clients. To really set yourself up for a sensual evening we recommend breaking out your own massages oils, candles and open minds. Watch the video first or join along, just as long as you have fun and heat things up! We recommend using Kama sutra oil of love massage oil; it is edible and warms to the skin to help keep the chill at bay.

Another great classic video is Debbie Does Dallas East vs West. A young cheerleading captain and her squad in a fantastic erotic video, need we say more? To make the evening more realistic you could dress up in the private school girl costume just for him see what the evening has in store for you.

If your ready for something a little more raw and are ready to ramp things up a notch we recommend watching Chemistry or Jenna Love Pain. These two videos are sexy and take you to a whole new world, whether you want to try it or just feel content to watch, you’ll be sure to open new doors of sensual adventure. If you feel the desire for some video props we recommend the Luscious Sex blanket and Floggerella Leather Whips to make the evening a surprise event.

If you’re feeling a little devilish we recommend The New Devil in Miss Jones. The lovely virgin is enticed by the Devil played by Jenna Jameson, now Miss Jones must submit to the Devil’s every whim and desire. Enjoy this movie just as a show or pull up some submission techniques of your own with the Devilish Weekend Kit. Take turns being the devil and enjoy a sexy weekend away.

If none of these erotic videos have caught your fancy or imagination, then perhaps a little education fun will be of service to you. With fun new titles like the Expert Guide to Anal Sex, or the Expert Guide to Oral Sex, you and your partner can heat up the sheets while learning a little something new.

So to start the season off right go ahead and explore your sensual boundaries using videos and props to guide you along or spark your imagination. Heat the sheets and spend the season cozy in bed, as there is no better way to spend the holidays.