Fun and Light Techniques for Whips and Paddles

Spanking and light whips are some of the most popular types of sensation play. It can be done in combination with oral sex with your partner standing or on its own as the primary focus.

* Role play is a great way to begin adding slapping into your games; you can spank your school girl with the wooden Naughty Ruler for being “bad” and gently whip your maid for not cleaning the room just right. Role-playing can let you step outside of your everyday roles and experience more freedom in expressing yourself.
Create the role-play scenario for your night of spanking bliss. Get creative and set up a situation that creates intensity for both partners.

* Picking your pleasure items is part of the fun and anticipation. You can choose from a variety of whips, paddles and crops for your foray into this erotic pleasure. Each provides a different aural and physical sensation. Whips have many tails which can be used to stroke and tap your partner. Our leather Flogerella whips and rubber whips are good for beginner and intermediates. They can create very soft taps or more stingy strokes but the mid-length allows more control. Paddles and crops provide a slappier sound; which can be very arousing, and the length allows you to be up close or further away from your lover. Often it is the sound of the paddle hitting your bottom or thigh that is just as sexy as the sensation.

* Warming up. Start with light touches like feathers and finger nails, slowly running along from the lower back to the back of the thigh area but focusing on the buttocks. Or try applying some edible warming oil and licking the area. Then move up by using a whip, paddle or your hand with gentle taps and flicks over the entire buttock or thigh area. Warming up the area sends happy endorphins to the brain and starts the juices flowing. Mix up your spanking by switching between gentle love taps, massage and harder smacks. Be sure to switch from one cheek or thigh to the next. The body becomes accustomed to any sensation after about twenty minutes so you need to keep changing the sensation to make the pleasure last.

* Get your swing on. When using the whip or flogger you need to first practice your swing. You wouldn’t walk out onto the badminton court without trying your racket for the first time; neither should you try a whip on a partner until you have learnt to control the feel of your whip and floggers.
You can begin creating a steady and rhythmic motion with forehand/backhand action. Adding flicks of your wrist or a slight heavy handedness to change the rhythm or motion of your stroke.
The “towel” stroke is a quick flick of the wrist and snap of your whip. The “windmill” stroke is a counterclockwise or clockwise motion of your wrist that has a quick flick across the bottom. Also the “figure 8” pattern can be created with the use of two whips used simultaneously.
Any and all of these movements can be used in combination with each other and spanking. Changing your rhythm and motion creates a more erotic sensation and you can heighten the sensation by using a blindfold, it will create anticipation and suspense.

* Communication. Find out what your partner is enjoying by asking questions such as ‘harder’, ‘softer’, ‘faster’, ‘slower’…etc. Or vise versa, if you are the person being flogged or spanked. Use this occasion to talk dirty and arouse your partner more. Tell them how you love seeing their butt cheeks turn red or how bad you’ve been to deserve this spanking.

* Positions. The most popular position is over the knee. But you can prop your partner on all fours with their rump in the air or over furniture like a bed, chair, or sex furniture like the Liberator Ramp or Wedge. Experiment with different locations and positions.

* Safety First. There are areas where it is safe for spanking and flogging and other areas that should be avoided. Fleshy areas such as the buttocks, shoulder, calves and thighs are a safe and fun area for whipping and spanking. DO NOT whip the abdomen area below the ribcage, head, neck, spine or behind the knees and ankles. The abdomen especially has vital organs such as the kidneys and a rough hit could cause damage.
Be careful not to wrap the tip of the whip around these sensitive areas during whip play.
Always have a safe word which when uttered stops the play immediately. This is your partner’s way of saying “I have had enough.”

After your playful session, rub down the area with a cooling cream like the Kama Sutra body soufflé in Cool Mint or Soaring Spirit massage oil. Talk about how the experience was for each of you and make a date for the next play session!

Honey's Q & A: After Pregnancy Intimacy

Q: I had a baby two months ago. My heart and brain are screaming for sex, but my body is still saying ‘no way!’ Will I ever be able to enjoy sex again?

A: Congratulations on the new addition to your family. You can certainly enjoy sex after pregnancy. The key is going slow and listening to your body.

Much will depend on how much wear and tear you experienced while giving birth. If you were torn or had an episiotomy, it could take longer before you truly feel comfortable during sex. Exactly how long depends on a number of things, including how long you normally take to heal, the extent of tearing or type of episiotomy, length of labor and whether the delivery was assisted by forceps or vacuum extraction.

Kegel exercises, up to 100 per day, are one step to getting your pelvic floor muscles strong again. Find the muscles by imagining you’re urinating. Squeeze the muscles as if you were stopping the flow of urine. Let go and try again. Squeeze and release repeatedly to strengthen the vaginal muscles. Adding a toy designed to help with Kegels such as Smart Balls or Lelo Luna Luxury Balls can be helpful and fun.

Even without tears, you will likely notice your vagina does not lubricate as well as before. This is due to low levels of estrogen. Also, breastfeeding can increase dryness as lactating women produce fewer of the ovarian hormones that make you lubricate. This means a good water-based lube is a must.

Plenty of foreplay is essential too. Not only will it help move lubrication along, but if your body isn’t feeling up to the act itself, foreplay can be the main event. Plenty of cuddling, petting, oral sex and mutual masturbation will help keep you and your partner physically close.

As your body heals, you may find certain sexual positions you enjoyed pre-pregnancy and even while pregnant no longer feel comfortable. Rather than dwelling on this as a negative, use it as an opportunity to try new positions. You may be pleasantly surprised. Side-to-side or woman-on-top positions will allow you more control and put less stress on body parts that may still be healing.

Most of all keep communicating with your partner and keep a sense of humor. If pain persists, see your doctor.

Erotic Movies For Couples

The brisk chill in the air, rain, sleet and hail are precluding the wonder of the winter months. With the end of day light savings the nights creep up sooner and we must take shelter in the comfort of fuzzy covers and body heat. So what better way to spend those cozy nights snuggled together than to watch a movie?

Statistics have shown that it’s no longer men who monopolize visual stimulation. In a recent study it has been shown that 75% of couples are now enjoying erotic videos to spice things up. Allowing you to possibly re-enact you favorite parts or just enjoy the show! With the coming of the chills we’ve brought in a fun new selection of sexy pornography videos to heat up the blankets and warm your toes.

If it is your first time entering the world of erotic movies, we recommend going for the classics. With Jenna Jameson is the Masseuse you have the original and the new version, its two videos in one! It shows us the fun and exciting life of a masseuse as she reveals her favorite games to play with clients. To really set yourself up for a sensual evening we recommend breaking out your own massages oils, candles and open minds. Watch the video first or join along, just as long as you have fun and heat things up! We recommend using Kama sutra oil of love massage oil; it is edible and warms to the skin to help keep the chill at bay.

Another great classic video is Debbie Does Dallas East vs West. A young cheerleading captain and her squad in a fantastic erotic video, need we say more? To make the evening more realistic you could dress up in the private school girl costume just for him see what the evening has in store for you.

If your ready for something a little more raw and are ready to ramp things up a notch we recommend watching Chemistry or Jenna Love Pain. These two videos are sexy and take you to a whole new world, whether you want to try it or just feel content to watch, you’ll be sure to open new doors of sensual adventure. If you feel the desire for some video props we recommend the Luscious Sex blanket and Floggerella Leather Whips to make the evening a surprise event.

If you’re feeling a little devilish we recommend The New Devil in Miss Jones. The lovely virgin is enticed by the Devil played by Jenna Jameson, now Miss Jones must submit to the Devil’s every whim and desire. Enjoy this movie just as a show or pull up some submission techniques of your own with the Devilish Weekend Kit. Take turns being the devil and enjoy a sexy weekend away.

If none of these erotic videos have caught your fancy or imagination, then perhaps a little education fun will be of service to you. With fun new titles like the Expert Guide to Anal Sex, or the Expert Guide to Oral Sex, you and your partner can heat up the sheets while learning a little something new.

So to start the season off right go ahead and explore your sensual boundaries using videos and props to guide you along or spark your imagination. Heat the sheets and spend the season cozy in bed, as there is no better way to spend the holidays.