How To Choose A Sexual Lubricant

Choosing the right lubricant can greatly enhance your sexual pleasure whether with a partner or for use on a sex toy. It decreases the friction and creates a slippery entry for your partner or toy. When choosing the right lubricant for you it can get overwhelming, this guide will help you choose the perfect sexual lubricant for you your toys and partner to use.

Specialty Lubes for Women. Lubricants designed just for women are generally very gentle and glycerin free. This helps to prevent the possibility of yeast infections in those with very sensitive skin. Some fantastic lubes for women are the Pink Lubricants, as well as the JO Agape.

Silicone Based Lubricants. If you like to have sex in the shower but find that the water washes away your lubricant then silicone is the one for you. This lube stays slippery until you wash it off with soap and water, no need to reapply, perfect for playtime in the bathtub. Some fun silicone lubricants to try are the ID Millennium or the Pink Silicone. Silicone lubricants should not be used with silicone toys; this can slowly erode the toy’s silicone exterior.

Flavored Lubricant. Flavored lubricants are the perfect choice for oral sex. They smell and taste delicious, while making it easier to perform. Some fun tastes to try are the O’My Flavors such as Melon or Pina Colada, JO flavors such as Strawberry or Tangerine, Hathor’s flavors such as Chocolate Strawberry or Hazelnut Caramel, and ID’s fun flavors such as Bubblegum or Mint.

Warming Lubricants. To add some heat to your sex play, try using a warming lubricant. This lubricant heats up against the skin providing a fun heated tingling sensation. Some fun lubes to try are the JO Warming, ID Warming or Pink Warming.

Textures: Lubricants have a variety of textures to think about. Whether it be smooth and watery or a thick gel you should choose the right lubricant for the play at hand. Thicker textures such as Slippery Stuff are fantastic for anal play. The thicker solution coats the body and stays for longer. Thinner lubricants such as O’my Natural or JO H2O are fantastic for sex play with your partner or with a toy.

Glycerin Free. Glycerin is a type of complex sugar, and found in most lubricants. Specialty lubricants especially for women are glycerin free. This is helpful for women with recurring yeast infection or severe sensitivity.

Water Based. Water based lubricants are among the most popular lubricants. Water based is safe for all sex toys and is very easy to clean.

Using a lubricant is a sure way to enhance your sexual play and fun, and with the varieties available you will be sure to find just the right one for you and your partner. Enjoy!

Honey's Q & A: After Pregnancy Intimacy

Q: I had a baby two months ago. My heart and brain are screaming for sex, but my body is still saying ‘no way!’ Will I ever be able to enjoy sex again?

A: Congratulations on the new addition to your family. You can certainly enjoy sex after pregnancy. The key is going slow and listening to your body.

Much will depend on how much wear and tear you experienced while giving birth. If you were torn or had an episiotomy, it could take longer before you truly feel comfortable during sex. Exactly how long depends on a number of things, including how long you normally take to heal, the extent of tearing or type of episiotomy, length of labor and whether the delivery was assisted by forceps or vacuum extraction.

Kegel exercises, up to 100 per day, are one step to getting your pelvic floor muscles strong again. Find the muscles by imagining you’re urinating. Squeeze the muscles as if you were stopping the flow of urine. Let go and try again. Squeeze and release repeatedly to strengthen the vaginal muscles. Adding a toy designed to help with Kegels such as Smart Balls or Lelo Luna Luxury Balls can be helpful and fun.

Even without tears, you will likely notice your vagina does not lubricate as well as before. This is due to low levels of estrogen. Also, breastfeeding can increase dryness as lactating women produce fewer of the ovarian hormones that make you lubricate. This means a good water-based lube is a must.

Plenty of foreplay is essential too. Not only will it help move lubrication along, but if your body isn’t feeling up to the act itself, foreplay can be the main event. Plenty of cuddling, petting, oral sex and mutual masturbation will help keep you and your partner physically close.

As your body heals, you may find certain sexual positions you enjoyed pre-pregnancy and even while pregnant no longer feel comfortable. Rather than dwelling on this as a negative, use it as an opportunity to try new positions. You may be pleasantly surprised. Side-to-side or woman-on-top positions will allow you more control and put less stress on body parts that may still be healing.

Most of all keep communicating with your partner and keep a sense of humor. If pain persists, see your doctor.

How to Have Backdoor Fun

Did you take a sharp breath just now? Or perhaps your virgin bum cheeks are clenched together? Take a deep breath and relax for the ride. It needn’t be scary and will enhance your boudoir routine when you follow our steps. After all, the anal area is rich with nerve endings and muscles, making the right touch a pleasure for women and men. For guys, it can put pressure on the prostate, resulting in a mind-blowing orgasm. And for gals, the G-spot can be stimulated indirectly during anal sex. But before you dive in, here are a few important tips.

1.Lube, lube, and more lube
The anus doesn’t lubricate like the vagina. This makes the right lubricant a must-have accessory for backdoor play. A water-based, glycerin-free lube like Slippery Stuff is compatible with latex and silicone, so can be used with condoms. Slippery Stuff is thick, so it forms a protective coat on your delicate behind. A silicone-based lube such as ID Millennium will not dry out, keeping you slick and ready for action, even under water. Make sure you pick the right lube for you.

2. Take your time
Many people are scared off anal play by the delicate nature of the area. Because the rectum’s tissue is quite sensitive, it is possible to tear it. However, the correct type of lube is a big part of keeping your heinie intact, as is taking things slowly. Start with feeling the outside of your own or your partner’s bottom first. You may be surprised at the sensitive spots you find before entry. A tongue or very well lubed finger is a good way to start.

3. Keep it clean
If the whole poop thing gives you the heebie jeebies, the ‘receiver’ can go to the bathroom first and follow up with a shower. Indeed, or the whole enchilada can take place in the shower too. The ‘giver’ may also wear a latex glove with plenty of lube to keep his or her hands pristine. A well-lubed condom goes without saying.

4. Education
Before forging ahead, stimulate the mind with instructional DVDs. A good DVD will use real couples to show watchers positions in detail, so there are no convoluted diagrams to follow. Many show you the physiology of anal stimulation and how to prepare for it, along with debunking the myths about anal. Some also touch on topics like safe sex and anal hygiene. Worthwhile DVDs include The Better Guide to Anal Pleasure and Expert Guide to Anal Sex For a New Generation, both by Tristan Taormino.

5. Play safe with the right toys
Yikes! Imagine the embarrassment of heading to the emergency room because you lost a toy in your bum. Yes, it can happen if you don’t use the correct toys. Anal toys should have a flanged end to prevent this from occurring.

6. Plugs
Butt plugs like the Ashley Tush Toy have a thin neck and flanged base so they can’t completely slip inside. The Ashley has the added bonus of an opening at the base, where a small bullet vibrator can fit inside for a little extra zip.

7. Anal Beads
Centuries of bead enthusiasts can’t be wrong! Beads make the sphincter muscles contract. Beads + muscle contractions = Amazing Orgasms. A nice equation, don’t you think? Modern designs, such as Silicone X-10 Beads, feature seamless graduated anal beads. Gently insert the smallest and work your way up according to your comfort zone. Gently pull them out as you climax to kick it up a notch.

For beginners looking for the complete package, the Tush-tastic Kit is simply bootylicious! It includes everything you’ll need: The Better Sex Guide to Anal Pleasure DVD; Ashley Tush Toy; Power Bullet; Jelly Anal Beads and Slippery Stuff lube.

Tips on what lubricant to use

A Splash of Liquid Love.

Whether you’re playing with toys, pleasuring yourself, or getting down and dirty with your partner, a sexual lubricant (a.k.a. lube) can enhance your experience. Even if you lubricate naturally, extra lube’s a good idea -- better slippery and safe than sorry and sore! And, since the number one reason for condom breakage is lack of lubrication, a little lube helps to avoid those spoil-the-mood surprises.

• Safe for use with condoms or toys, water-based lubricants such as ID Glide, O’My or Liquid Silk are the most common and versatile. Their greatest advantage? Quick and easy clean up – just rinse with warm water or wipe with a damp washcloth.
  
• Silicone-based lubricants like ID Millennium are waterproof, making them ideal for “water sports”. They’re fine for use with condoms and non-silicone toys, and there’s no need to reapply during long lovemaking sessions. They’re super-slippery, though, so watch your step in the tub or shower. And cleaning up’s as easy as a quick, soapy wash.
  
• Oil-based lubes like Stroke it and Super Stroke It are thicker and longer-lasting, making them ideal for intercourse and anal play. They’re great for hand-jobs, too, but shouldn’t be used with latex condoms or toys.
  
• Prefer a glycerine-free lubricant that’s toy and condom compatible? Check out Slippery Stuff or Hathor Aphrodisia (made with horny goat weed for extra enjoyment).
  
• Fun, flavoured water-based lubes are safe for condoms and toys and add a little extra sweetness to lovemaking.
  
• Want to heat things up even more? Warming lubricants, like ID Sensation Warming Lubricant, create a warm and sensual effect when applied. They’re safe to ingest, so add a splash to your favourite flavoured lube.

Okay, so they’re not technically lubes, but here are some other pleasurable potions…

• Increase her blood flow and sensitivity with all-natural “O” Clitoral Pleasure Gel. A little goes a long way!
  
• Yummy-tasting and versatile, Kama Sutra Pleasure Balm has many uses. A small amount helps preserve his powers long into the night, and a teeny-tiny dab on nipples or clit will add a tantalizing tingle. It’s available in several fruity flavours, though the original Mint flavour provides the most powerful kick.
  
• Perk things up with cool, stimulating Ice Queen Nipple Gel or tasty, travel-sized Nipple Nibblers, available in four delectable flavours. For spine-tingling kisses, apply Nipple Nibblers to your lips before planting a big, fat smooch on your sweetie.

How to give great head for your lover

You're now into the faster, rhythmical phase he's been aching for. So get comfortable-it's going to get wild! Try the tips techniques from Sadie Allisons book "Tickle his Pickle" as your starting point and improvise from there.

Here are some of the many suggestions from her book - Be sure to include these Bj-boosters in your bedroom next time you are in the mood!:

• You only need to put his penis into your mouth as far as you feel comfortable. You can start shallow, and increase the depth slowly.
• No need to limit yourself to one technique - try three or more in the same session, along with different speeds, pressures, grips and motions. Slow down, speed up. Keep him guessing what's next.
• Pay attention to what's going on inside your mouth. Make sure it's always nice n' slipery, keep your teeth out of the way, run his head along the roof of your mouth for a bumpy ridge effect, lick the tip of his head whiles it's inside and swirl on it with your tongue.
• Look at him seductively through your hanging hair. Later, tie it back so he can see you. Or ask him to hold it for you. Look up into his eyes while you're pleasing him, grin seductively and whisper, "Do you like that baby?"
• If you get dry, sip more water or just drizzle on more flavoured lube. Don't be shy-make a sexy production out of it.
• Be noisy. He loves the sounds of sucking, oohing and aah-ing, as well as the vibrations of you humming.
• Now break out the vibrators! Give him the wonderful sensation of vibrations along with the soft warm feel of your mouth.