Fun and Light Techniques for Whips and Paddles

Spanking and light whips are some of the most popular types of sensation play. It can be done in combination with oral sex with your partner standing or on its own as the primary focus.

* Role play is a great way to begin adding slapping into your games; you can spank your school girl with the wooden Naughty Ruler for being “bad” and gently whip your maid for not cleaning the room just right. Role-playing can let you step outside of your everyday roles and experience more freedom in expressing yourself.
Create the role-play scenario for your night of spanking bliss. Get creative and set up a situation that creates intensity for both partners.

* Picking your pleasure items is part of the fun and anticipation. You can choose from a variety of whips, paddles and crops for your foray into this erotic pleasure. Each provides a different aural and physical sensation. Whips have many tails which can be used to stroke and tap your partner. Our leather Flogerella whips and rubber whips are good for beginner and intermediates. They can create very soft taps or more stingy strokes but the mid-length allows more control. Paddles and crops provide a slappier sound; which can be very arousing, and the length allows you to be up close or further away from your lover. Often it is the sound of the paddle hitting your bottom or thigh that is just as sexy as the sensation.

* Warming up. Start with light touches like feathers and finger nails, slowly running along from the lower back to the back of the thigh area but focusing on the buttocks. Or try applying some edible warming oil and licking the area. Then move up by using a whip, paddle or your hand with gentle taps and flicks over the entire buttock or thigh area. Warming up the area sends happy endorphins to the brain and starts the juices flowing. Mix up your spanking by switching between gentle love taps, massage and harder smacks. Be sure to switch from one cheek or thigh to the next. The body becomes accustomed to any sensation after about twenty minutes so you need to keep changing the sensation to make the pleasure last.

* Get your swing on. When using the whip or flogger you need to first practice your swing. You wouldn’t walk out onto the badminton court without trying your racket for the first time; neither should you try a whip on a partner until you have learnt to control the feel of your whip and floggers.
You can begin creating a steady and rhythmic motion with forehand/backhand action. Adding flicks of your wrist or a slight heavy handedness to change the rhythm or motion of your stroke.
The “towel” stroke is a quick flick of the wrist and snap of your whip. The “windmill” stroke is a counterclockwise or clockwise motion of your wrist that has a quick flick across the bottom. Also the “figure 8” pattern can be created with the use of two whips used simultaneously.
Any and all of these movements can be used in combination with each other and spanking. Changing your rhythm and motion creates a more erotic sensation and you can heighten the sensation by using a blindfold, it will create anticipation and suspense.

* Communication. Find out what your partner is enjoying by asking questions such as ‘harder’, ‘softer’, ‘faster’, ‘slower’…etc. Or vise versa, if you are the person being flogged or spanked. Use this occasion to talk dirty and arouse your partner more. Tell them how you love seeing their butt cheeks turn red or how bad you’ve been to deserve this spanking.

* Positions. The most popular position is over the knee. But you can prop your partner on all fours with their rump in the air or over furniture like a bed, chair, or sex furniture like the Liberator Ramp or Wedge. Experiment with different locations and positions.

* Safety First. There are areas where it is safe for spanking and flogging and other areas that should be avoided. Fleshy areas such as the buttocks, shoulder, calves and thighs are a safe and fun area for whipping and spanking. DO NOT whip the abdomen area below the ribcage, head, neck, spine or behind the knees and ankles. The abdomen especially has vital organs such as the kidneys and a rough hit could cause damage.
Be careful not to wrap the tip of the whip around these sensitive areas during whip play.
Always have a safe word which when uttered stops the play immediately. This is your partner’s way of saying “I have had enough.”

After your playful session, rub down the area with a cooling cream like the Kama Sutra body soufflé in Cool Mint or Soaring Spirit massage oil. Talk about how the experience was for each of you and make a date for the next play session!

Playful Positions for Fuller Figures

Pregnancy is a beautiful time for you and your partner, but sometime the beautiful belly starts to get in the way of your more traditional positions. Here are some fun varieties to try that are comfortable and safe for mommy and baby.

Soft Landing: Stack a pile of soft and fluffy pillows underneath your stomach and chest to cushion and support your body and neck. You will have comfort against the support and he has access to your body from behind. This position allows for adding a little anal play into the equation. The Havana Tush Toy kit can be used with or without vibrations. Using just the tip of the plug for external stimulation of the bum can be a lot of fun. In this position he should avoid pumping too hard or deep.

Wheelbarrow: This position is comfortable and easy. Simply lay curled on your side at the edge of your mattress with your neck and shoulder propped comfortably by a few soft and fluffy pillows. He stands between your butt and knees for easy penetration, and he will enjoy a wonderful view of you. In this position he can easily reach around and stimulate your clitoris with a small and compact Fuzuoku Finger Vibrator. Use the finger sex toy to slowly tease and tantalize!

Belly Up: Bracing yourself up against a headboard or wall allows for a shallower penetration that is pleasurable and fun. It also gives him access to touch your breasts, belly and clitoris softly. We recommend using pillows beneath your knees for comfort and support. Combining this with a couples toy like the Diving Dolphin can triple your pleasure! This toy comes with two bullets-one that vibrates against her clitoris as well as one underneath that stimulates him and her!

As you move along in your pregnancy we recommend visiting your doctor, intercourse should be fine if your pregnancy is progressing normally but if you have any complications be sure to discuss frankly with your doctor what you can and can not do.

Hello to all you voluptuous ladies out there. We’ve created a section just for you, to help you discover some creative and ingenious solutions to some playful positions. Being a plus size lady has many challenges with body image and some positions just don’t work. But instead of worrying about all that we’ve come up with a few fail safe solutions to just enjoy sex, no matter your size.

No Ouch Couch: The couch is perfect for sex furniture. Using the seat cushion to support you upper body and having more pillows supporting your arms and neck as well as cushioning your knees. You will feel cushioned and comfortable allowing him access from behind for deep penetration. This position is great for him to reach around to stimulate your nipples with some Ice Queen Nipple Gel or placing a compact mini vibrator on his finger like the Five Function Finger Vibe to slowly massage your clitoris. This position is also super for pleasuring the nerve rich anal area. Start slowly stimulating the outside with a small well lubricated butt plug like the Silicone Pleasure Plug or insert some small anal beads like the Fun Factory Bendy Beads. The beads are slowly pulled out during an orgasm providing a more intense experience.

Deep Mission: Continuing our couch theme, if you throw the back cushions to the side you will create a deeper couch on which to enjoy yourselves. You can lay back, get comfortable and open you legs wide for a deeper missionary penetration. The intimacy of gazing into each others eyes and giving him access to your breast and clitoris will make this an all around enjoyable position. If you find pillows too soft, a wonderful option would be The Liberator Sex Furniture. These triangular shapes allow you to move into unlimited positions while providing firm support. You won’t be limited by where you can and cannot have sex. The triangle shapes make it easy to slip into narrow spaces when not in use.

Good Headboard: Sometime being on top when you are a voluptuous lady can be awkward and uncomfortable. If you try using the head board as leverage you can lift and support your body with ease and the leverage allows you to speed up the action. This position gives him the added advantage of being able to lay back and have access to your clitoris. A vibrating cock ring like the Utopia Triple Action can be a fabulous addition to this position as it allows you full control of how much stimulation you want on your clitoris. You can tease yourself until you’re ready to orgasm. This couple’s sex toy also has an extra testicle ring for him-intensifying his orgasm.

To see more of these playful positions see Ride'em Cowgirl by Sadie Allison.