Fun and Light Techniques for Whips and Paddles

Spanking and light whips are some of the most popular types of sensation play. It can be done in combination with oral sex with your partner standing or on its own as the primary focus.

* Role play is a great way to begin adding slapping into your games; you can spank your school girl with the wooden Naughty Ruler for being “bad” and gently whip your maid for not cleaning the room just right. Role-playing can let you step outside of your everyday roles and experience more freedom in expressing yourself.
Create the role-play scenario for your night of spanking bliss. Get creative and set up a situation that creates intensity for both partners.

* Picking your pleasure items is part of the fun and anticipation. You can choose from a variety of whips, paddles and crops for your foray into this erotic pleasure. Each provides a different aural and physical sensation. Whips have many tails which can be used to stroke and tap your partner. Our leather Flogerella whips and rubber whips are good for beginner and intermediates. They can create very soft taps or more stingy strokes but the mid-length allows more control. Paddles and crops provide a slappier sound; which can be very arousing, and the length allows you to be up close or further away from your lover. Often it is the sound of the paddle hitting your bottom or thigh that is just as sexy as the sensation.

* Warming up. Start with light touches like feathers and finger nails, slowly running along from the lower back to the back of the thigh area but focusing on the buttocks. Or try applying some edible warming oil and licking the area. Then move up by using a whip, paddle or your hand with gentle taps and flicks over the entire buttock or thigh area. Warming up the area sends happy endorphins to the brain and starts the juices flowing. Mix up your spanking by switching between gentle love taps, massage and harder smacks. Be sure to switch from one cheek or thigh to the next. The body becomes accustomed to any sensation after about twenty minutes so you need to keep changing the sensation to make the pleasure last.

* Get your swing on. When using the whip or flogger you need to first practice your swing. You wouldn’t walk out onto the badminton court without trying your racket for the first time; neither should you try a whip on a partner until you have learnt to control the feel of your whip and floggers.
You can begin creating a steady and rhythmic motion with forehand/backhand action. Adding flicks of your wrist or a slight heavy handedness to change the rhythm or motion of your stroke.
The “towel” stroke is a quick flick of the wrist and snap of your whip. The “windmill” stroke is a counterclockwise or clockwise motion of your wrist that has a quick flick across the bottom. Also the “figure 8” pattern can be created with the use of two whips used simultaneously.
Any and all of these movements can be used in combination with each other and spanking. Changing your rhythm and motion creates a more erotic sensation and you can heighten the sensation by using a blindfold, it will create anticipation and suspense.

* Communication. Find out what your partner is enjoying by asking questions such as ‘harder’, ‘softer’, ‘faster’, ‘slower’…etc. Or vise versa, if you are the person being flogged or spanked. Use this occasion to talk dirty and arouse your partner more. Tell them how you love seeing their butt cheeks turn red or how bad you’ve been to deserve this spanking.

* Positions. The most popular position is over the knee. But you can prop your partner on all fours with their rump in the air or over furniture like a bed, chair, or sex furniture like the Liberator Ramp or Wedge. Experiment with different locations and positions.

* Safety First. There are areas where it is safe for spanking and flogging and other areas that should be avoided. Fleshy areas such as the buttocks, shoulder, calves and thighs are a safe and fun area for whipping and spanking. DO NOT whip the abdomen area below the ribcage, head, neck, spine or behind the knees and ankles. The abdomen especially has vital organs such as the kidneys and a rough hit could cause damage.
Be careful not to wrap the tip of the whip around these sensitive areas during whip play.
Always have a safe word which when uttered stops the play immediately. This is your partner’s way of saying “I have had enough.”

After your playful session, rub down the area with a cooling cream like the Kama Sutra body soufflé in Cool Mint or Soaring Spirit massage oil. Talk about how the experience was for each of you and make a date for the next play session!

Sexy Adult Halloween Costumes

Just about any character or idea can be translated into a fun and fantastical costume for the one night of the year you are allowed to leave the bedroom decked out in an outrageous costumes.

Story Book Characters: For Halloween you could be Little Bo Peep who lost her sheep or Little Miss Muffet who sat on her tuffet, Little Red Riding Hood or Gretel from Hanzel and Gretel. A sweet and Sexy Dutch Dirdle or lovely Snow White. Bring these storybook characters to life for a night of fun and games. While still being sweet these costumes have turned on the heat with sultry and sexy short skirts and plunging necklines. Add opaque stockings and a puffy petticoat and you will have a complete outfit to drive your honey crazy at your Halloween party while you can skip around looking sweet as can be.

Pirates and Sailors: Whether you wish to look like a dirty pirate from Pirates of the Caribbean or a sexy pin up sailor, we have the costumes for you. Flounced skirts and corsets, swords and a floppy hat make up our Sexy Pirate Costume, you just need to add a pair of fence net stockings and boots and you will feel like you own the high seas. The Striped Sailor or Shipmate Cutie costumes have the retro feel of a pin up sailor girl. Add a simple pair of opaque thigh high’s and a pair of heels and you will be one sizzling swashbuckler! If your not interested in ruling the high seas perhaps leading the sailors and pirates to their sweet doom as a Siren or Mermaid with shimmering tails and sexy tops is the way to spend your evening.

Hero’s and Law Women: Be strong and powerful with the law at your side with sexy mini dresses and flashy capes and badges. The Sexy Cop or Miss Law costume can in your navy blue and flashy badges and handcuffs can keep the lawbreakers at bay and have you feeling sexy all night long. The Phantom Batgirl , Hero Wonder Woman or Miss Zorro with a swish of their capes can lead you on a merry chase. Keep your head high and the power of right on your side for a sexy Halloween.

Villians: If your not interested in being righteous and good and wish to be “bad” for Halloween you can dress up as a sexy Prisoner, running from the law and looking fantastic while doing it. Or for the ultimate in evil dress up as the Sexy Devil and lure your victims to you with a wink and a kiss.

Naughty Nurses: Time to take his temperature but watch out it will be soaring sky high with you in one of these outfits. Whether out for a party or just having a sexy night in our Nurse Costumes will heat up the room. The Naughty Night Nurse is a sleek and sexy dress but underneath is where the fun lies, with an added red cross bra that just covers your nipples and crotchless panties he’ll be antsy to get you home. The Darque Nurse takes naughty to a new level with a sexy pouffy skirt and boning at the waist. The deep v-neckline and crotchless panties with nipple pasties complete this outfit. If you wishing to go more traditional the Naughty Nurse Costume, Vinyl Nurse, Head Nurse, Day Nurse are all hot choices. In any of these sexy costumes you will have a line up of patients all night long.

French Maids: Be a little frisky this Halloween in a sexy French Maid outfit. The Chamber Maid is demure yet sexy with its deep v-neckline and short frilly skirt. Add a pleasure feather to the outfit and you can tease and please your partners body after ‘you’ve ready the chamber’. If you wish to show a little more skin the Upstairs Maid Costume reveals your sexy belly, with the short black skirt and frilly crinoline and tiny zip up crop top to conceal and reveal the rest of you. Underneath this sexy outfit is a quarter cup bra, garter belt, stockings and thong. Everything you could possibly need to take him upstairs for a fun night in.

School Girls and Cheer Leaders. Every fantasy has to have a sexy school girl at some time or another. So go ahead and feel naughty by going out this Halloween as a Sexy Private School Girl in a short halter top and tie with mini pleated skirt and knee highs or the Sexy School Girl with a tie front collar top and plaid mini skirt with pin and knee highs. Take your Naughty Ruler along and give the “bad boys” a smack for staring. After school, slip on your cheerleader outfit. The Sexy Cheerleader Costume complete with pom poms will surely get you in the mood to cheer on your favorite team. It comes with a short pleated mini skirt and halter top to flatter all shapes and two red pom poms. So go out and shake your pom poms and spread the school spirit.

Sexy Costumes for Bedroom Role-Playing

Role playing has long been a part of our sex games and fantasies; it allows us the freedom and liberation of being someone else for a few hours to play out the fantasies and try out the persona of the role you are playing. Three of the most popular fantasy costumes include:

Naughty School Girl: The cute and flouncy plaid skirt, pigtails, white button down top and white knee high stockings. The fantasy usually includes a teacher who needs to discipline the naughty school girl. This fantasy is popular because it allows the teacher to be in control and for the student to give up control. Over the years at our retail store we have had customers question the meaning behind the school girl fantasy. A fantasy played out between two adults is just that- a fantasy come true! It is about dominance and submissiveness. And of course Britney Spears probably made it even more popular! Check out some the cute School Girl, and Private School Girl costumes. Combine this fantasy with accessories like the Naughty Ruler.

Naughty Nurse: The Naughty Nurse is still one of the top fantasy costumes! We all know nurses don’t go to work wearing anything that even slightly resembles any of the sexy nurse costumes but that won’t stop this classic fantasy. This scenario usually involves the nurse attending to the patients every sexual whim to bring them back to ‘health’. The nurse in this situation can be the one in control with the ‘sex prescription’ to sexually satisfy the patient or she can give orders for the patient to sexually satisfy her. And of course this costume can also be used for the doctor and nurse fantasy! There are plenty of sexy nurse costumes to choose from, check out the Naughty Nurse, Night Nurse, Vinyl Nurse, Day Nurse, and the Darque Nurse. Accessories are also key to completing a role-playing fantasy. Complete the outfit with Naughty Nurse Opaque thigh highs, leather crop, Jo Flavored Lubricant and the Roughneck Realistic Vibrator.

French Maid: We are not sure why this fantasy came about…except if a stranger comes into a room with practically just a bed and dressed in a sexy outfit with fishnets, a sexual fantasy is sure to arise! At Honey we carry two sexy French maid costumes, the Upstairs Maid and the Chamber Maid. And don’t forget the accessories to complete the outfit like the Fishnet Thigh High Stay-ups and the Pleasure Feather!

There are many role-playing costumes to have fun with like the Policewomen, Little Bo Peep, Pussy Cat, Fire Women, Cheerleader, Prisoner of Love, Sweet Fairy, Geisha Girl, Sexy Mountie Girl … etc. Take a look at all the Sexy Costumes!

Some General Guidelines for Sex Games and Role-play:

1. Agree to the basics of the fantasies rules; for example, if using bondage or spanking in your game agree to how far you wish the fantasy to play out. I.e.: if you wish to see marks or no marks etc.

2. Designate your roles, this helps make the role playing more realistic as you will know which role you are playing.

3. Have a “safe word”. A word you both know and understand to absolutely mean STOP! Choose a word that is not easy misunderstood or misheard, some examples are “Roses” or “Peanut Butter.” These words should tell your partner that it is time to stop.

Have fun and indulge in as much play as you can with your partner! Your bedroom should not only be a place of sleep but an adult play zone. As they say…couples that play together stay together!

Creating a Boudoir Toy Box

“Remember the Toy box you had as a kid? Make an adult version, then take turns picking and playing…” (Tracy Cox Super Sex Deck)

Even though you have to “grow up” it doesn’t mean you still can’t have your childish desires. Picking your favorite toy from a toy box brimming full can provide just as much pleasure now as it did so long ago. With the holiday season past and the excitement of spring around the corner its time to start taking stock of your toys and renewing the old or starting off with the new.

A toy box is more than just a few vibrators, its full of wondrous items that will provide hours of sensual stimulation, laughs and fun. Your adult toy box should be full of everything you fancy, from of course your vibrators and dildos, to erotic books, DVD’s, edible goodies, massage and bondage. From sweet to racy your box should speak to your every desire and mood. So here are some fun ideas to fill your box with some sexy and fun items to get started!

Pleasure Toys: At least one or more vibrator such as the Lelo Gigi which will provide you with the option of internal or external stimulation, and is curved for the g-spot to boot. Other fun gadgets could include erotic videos and sex aids and even a Polaroid or digital camera for some sexy shots to share.

Dress-up: Any good toy box should have some dress up. From the traditional role-play costumes like the Naughty Nurse to leather corsets and whips to help act out any fantasy.

Laughs: Anything edible helps the laughter roll, especially if it can be licked, sucked or rubbed off, such as the candy g-string and bra or body licks. For more fun and laughter using sexy board games like the Hot Affair game or using Tracy Cox’s Super Sex Deck to help make your evenings a fun filled sexy event.

Good Reads: Erotica is always a good way to rev your engines and get the evening off to the right start. Whether a book such as Sweetlife or with the help of magazines, you should always have a few good options at your disposal.

Bondage: Silk stockings or sexy bondage scarves, bondage has never been more fun than with the addition of our new Babushka line. Made in Vancouver B.C. (name) has created a sexy line of tie up solutions that are beautiful silk and fun colors. You will want to leave them out all the time they are so fantastically soft and beautiful. If silk is not your style we have fantastic furry cuffs and the under the bed bondage kit for something a little more hard core. Whatever your fancy, bondage whether light or intense should have a part of your toy box.

If your concerns about your children or stray guests pawing through your box of goodies than we suggest investing in a fun and sexy locked box. Your toys can be hidden away and there are lots of different styles out there that you could find something beautiful as a décor statement as well as a functional hidy hole for toys. Another fantastic hiding spot for your box is high up in the upper part of your closet, as long as you are tall enough to reach and your little ones are still little than you can have piece of mind. Just make sure to send them off to bed early and lock the doors to make a sensual atmosphere when you and your partner wish to pull out your toys and set up and evening of sensual fun and delight.

For more ideas and suggestions like the ones above check out the Super Sex Deck by Tracy Cox, her fantastic deck provides you wish fun and sexy ideas for many cozy nights together.

Erotic Movies For Couples

The brisk chill in the air, rain, sleet and hail are precluding the wonder of the winter months. With the end of day light savings the nights creep up sooner and we must take shelter in the comfort of fuzzy covers and body heat. So what better way to spend those cozy nights snuggled together than to watch a movie?

Statistics have shown that it’s no longer men who monopolize visual stimulation. In a recent study it has been shown that 75% of couples are now enjoying erotic videos to spice things up. Allowing you to possibly re-enact you favorite parts or just enjoy the show! With the coming of the chills we’ve brought in a fun new selection of sexy pornography videos to heat up the blankets and warm your toes.

If it is your first time entering the world of erotic movies, we recommend going for the classics. With Jenna Jameson is the Masseuse you have the original and the new version, its two videos in one! It shows us the fun and exciting life of a masseuse as she reveals her favorite games to play with clients. To really set yourself up for a sensual evening we recommend breaking out your own massages oils, candles and open minds. Watch the video first or join along, just as long as you have fun and heat things up! We recommend using Kama sutra oil of love massage oil; it is edible and warms to the skin to help keep the chill at bay.

Another great classic video is Debbie Does Dallas East vs West. A young cheerleading captain and her squad in a fantastic erotic video, need we say more? To make the evening more realistic you could dress up in the private school girl costume just for him see what the evening has in store for you.

If your ready for something a little more raw and are ready to ramp things up a notch we recommend watching Chemistry or Jenna Love Pain. These two videos are sexy and take you to a whole new world, whether you want to try it or just feel content to watch, you’ll be sure to open new doors of sensual adventure. If you feel the desire for some video props we recommend the Luscious Sex blanket and Floggerella Leather Whips to make the evening a surprise event.

If you’re feeling a little devilish we recommend The New Devil in Miss Jones. The lovely virgin is enticed by the Devil played by Jenna Jameson, now Miss Jones must submit to the Devil’s every whim and desire. Enjoy this movie just as a show or pull up some submission techniques of your own with the Devilish Weekend Kit. Take turns being the devil and enjoy a sexy weekend away.

If none of these erotic videos have caught your fancy or imagination, then perhaps a little education fun will be of service to you. With fun new titles like the Expert Guide to Anal Sex, or the Expert Guide to Oral Sex, you and your partner can heat up the sheets while learning a little something new.

So to start the season off right go ahead and explore your sensual boundaries using videos and props to guide you along or spark your imagination. Heat the sheets and spend the season cozy in bed, as there is no better way to spend the holidays.

Tips and Thrills for The Boo-doire

Ever watch your favorite scary movie for the millionth time with your hands over your eyes, peeking through your fingers just as that particularly frightening yet thrilling part comes? Once you’re too old for trick-or-treating, Halloween really is all about getting a kick out of being frightened.

When you’re scared, your hormones kick in, resulting in a rush of adrenaline. This kicks up your physical strength and senses a few notches, something that comes in handy when playing with your partner.

All kinds of sexual kinks have roots in the fun of fear and the thrill of the unknown. Just the abbreviation BDSM (bondage/discipline, domination/submission and sadism/masochism) scares and thrills the pants off many. Think it’s too much for you? You’d be surprised how easy and exciting it is to customize to your needs.

BDSM covers a cache of kinks – spanking, wearing nipple clamps, blindfolds, gags, role playing, playing with hot and cold (think ice cubes and hot wax) and tying up your sweetie. It’s not about pain, but rather it’s about exploring what turns your crank. Following are some tips to getting your BDSM on:

Play safe: By this, we mean talk it out with your partner and make sure you’re on the same page when it comes to how far you’ll go. This means agreeing on…

A “safeword”: This is the word means stop. You can also have multiple words for “stop”, “slow down” and “let’s discuss.”

Start simple: Keep it simple in the beginning. Rather than trying full-on bondage, nipple clamps and hot wax all at once, start with one particular element and work your way up.

Hit me: Feeling naughty and in need of punishment? Old-fashioned spanking is a good start for beginners as you can better gauge how hard you are hitting. Keep it to the fleshier parts of the body and avoid super-sensitive areas like feet and hands.

Make it comfy: If the thought of being tied up gets you hot and bothered, start with something like fuzzy handcuffs or silk scarves. When tying knots, make sure you can slip two fingers between the restraints and your partner’s wrists or ankles.

Role-playing is another way to test your thrill-o-meter.

Costumes are fun any time of year. Is your man afraid of the doctor? Dressing the part of Naughty Nurse will cure what ails him, along with his fear of needles, in no time.

Ladies, if you’re the boss, let him be the boss now and then by playing the sexy, naïve Office Girl.

If you’re not up for full on dress-up yet, simply go to a bar and pretend you’re trying to pick your guy up. Wear a little something your partner wouldn’t normally expect, like Fishnet Thigh High Stockings. Give him a flirty look and perhaps a sneak peak of your, ahem, accessories, and you’ll be heading home or some other secluded area, pronto.

Fantasy Role Playing for Sexual Arousal

Many people ofter feel awkward, stuck or straight out silly when they try to do fantasy role playing during sex. Some of us will also be stunted for creativity, props and ambiance...where do we start?

Let's discuss the fine details to consider to really help you succeed in feeling confident for your role playing and sexual desires.

Take this example…
(this write up scenerio is from About.com http://sexuality.about.com/od/sexualroleplay/qt/settingthescene.htm)

You’ve decided to play a graduate student and your partner is going to be a professor. It’s the day of your big oral defense. This scenario is full of potential: power dynamics, opportunity for sexual bribery, a May-December sexual
tryst, plenty of “oral defense” puns.

But, if you don’t know what your research area is, or you don’t know whether you are a brilliant student being cut down by a sexy and overbearing professor, or a grad student who has slept their way to the top, and intends to do the very same tonight, you can’t get very far into the scenario.

Once you’ve come up with a character that strikes your fancy, start to think about the overall scenario, and answer some of these questions:

1. What is the physical setting? If you’re indoors, what kind of room (big, small, dark, brightly lit).
2. What time of day is it?
3. Are there other people nearby, are you in a public place, or completely secluded where no one will hear you scream (with pleasure)?
4. What’s the story? Why are you there, and (aside from the sex) what’s going to happen?

Filling in the details can not only give you more ideas for the sex part of the fantasy, but it can really help get you in character and make the role play come to life.

Check out your closet and drawers , look around your environment and find out what props would help with your fantasy and/or character.....Need help with props? Here's some scenerio suggestions:

School Girl - try the Private School Girl Costume, or School Girl

• For the teenage schoolgirl - How about a lipstick vibe for acting out a typical school girl. Tease your partner while applying it to your "sensitive" parts... and not your lips!
• For the naughty but nice schoolgirl - why not compliment the costume with a set of Furry Hand cuffs or the Spank Me Kit....pretend you are in detention...who wouldn't have fun with those!

French Maid - try the Friksy French Maid costume and match it up with a duster or a Sensual Body Feather. Instead of cleaning liquids or a bar of soap, grab a Massage Bar, Allow the buttery bar move along your curves.....create the perfect surface and let the delicious scent draw you closer.

Kitty Cat - wear a sexy Pussy Cat Costume and make him meow! Who needs to be tamed! Tie him up with Bondage Tape, and what self-respecting Sex Kitten would be caught without her purrrrrfect accessory....the Kitty Crop?

Nurse Betty - Try the Naughty Nurse - With this lycra dress, head piece and gloves...you don't need much. Play the role of nurse helping a patient...maybe be a thoughful nurse and apply body chocolate to your patient and lick it off. Or even wear a pair of edible undies and let him try some candy!

And finally what other props you need to make the ambiance: Perhaps, a candle for a soft alluring effect, a spray of Bare Essence Phermones to boost your sex signals , or even an inviting trail of roses to set the mood.