Great Sexual Arousal Techniques

Getting aroused is all about preparing your body for the act itself. Your heart kicks it up a notch, blood pressure rises and muscles tense. Blood flow to your nether-regions increases, making it hard to think.

Here are some ideas on how to turn guys and gals on:

• For her, many consider the clitoris the golden ticket.
  Massaging with a gel will keep things slick while boosting her sensitivity by increasing blood flow to the clitoris. Plus, adding clitoral stimulation while also stimulating the G-spot will send her over the top. Not just for use with a partner, it will help a woman help herself. (We recommend O Clitoral Stimulating Gel)



• But don’t dive for the clit right away.
  Start with massaging her other parts. Breast stimulation is fun for both him and her.



• For him, it’s visual and tactile. For her, it just feels darn good when done right.
  Symmetry, equal attention to both sides, is essential, as is starting slowly and gently. No cold hands please – massage oil can help keep things warm. Most importantly, read her cues. Some women prefer you keep it gentle, while others enjoy a nip. (To help tease and add a tasty sensation,we recommend using a flavored lube or Kama Sutra Honey Dust.)
  
  
• Less explicit things.
  Sexual arousal is often piqued by less explicit things and can start with seemingly non-sexy acts such as her partner taking out the garbage or preparing dinner, not to mention cleaning up afterwards
  
  
• Physical affection without sex helps up arousal.
  Touching – hugs, cuddles, kisses – all build the electricity for her. When having sexual contact, build it up with plenty of foreplay, focusing on the whole body, not just her sexual bits.
  
  
• Separate from work.
  Separate stress from work and other outside sources from your life as a couple. An added bonus is stress release can lead to sex, sex being the ultimate in stress release. Does your partner like a deep or gentle massage? You never know where a well-timed foot rub may lead.
  
  
• More than just Pete.
  Though men and women alike joke that men can only function mentally when their other head is not in use, to truly arouse a guy, it’s about more than just Pete – remember the boys, the neighboring perineum, and sometimes a little anal play is more than welcome.
  
  
• Mouthwash adds sensation.
  More suction doesn’t necessarily translate to good head. Teasingly licking his balls and shaft will help build up to the moment. Gargling with mouthwash beforehand, in addition to giving you minty fresh breath, will give him a tingly sensation.
  
  
• Stimulate his P-spot.
  While giving him head or hand, help finish him off with a perineal massage or stimulate his P-spot (prostate) with butt play. The perineum is the super sensitive spot between his testicles and anus. Press firmly and pump with a finger or knuckle to send him over the edge. Straight men who claim their butt is one-way only have likely never had the nerve-rich anus explored. A lot of lube, gentle touch and small toy. (We recommend the Finger Fun Vibrator - it can be a real eye opener. )
  
  
• Visual turn-ons.
  Then there are the visual turn-ons. Looking for something you can enjoy together, beginning to end? How about shopping for porn together? Yes, women like and are turned on by porn. It just has to be the right kind – there’s more out there than ‘70s porn with bad music and bad facial hair. The selection is tremendous, with women-directed flicks, natural bodied actors, plot-filled films and out-and-out sexfests.
  
  
• Suggested Reading material for him.
  Sexpert Lou Paget’s How To Give Her Absolute Pleasure book is chock full of ideas on how to build intensity.
  
  
• Suggested Reading material for her.
  Paget explores how to blow his mind too in How To Be a Great Lover. It’s about more than the penis, from his neck down to his perineum, testicles and, ahem, into his P-spot (prostate).

Advice on Prolonging Sexual Activity

Question: My boyfriend tends to get to the finish line much faster than me. What can help him prolong and/or for me to climax faster?

Answer: That is a common question we get at Honey! You will notice products for men tend to help them prolong and the opposite for women...they aim to help women reach orgasm faster. We are not sure why our biology is so different but simultaneous orgasms don't tend to be the norm for most couples.

Here are four things you can try:

1. Controlling the muscles with exercise and different breathing techniques. The exercises aid in controlling premature ejaculation as well as increasing sexual stamina. This is the basis for many tantric sex techniques so picking up a book or DVD (The Tantric Guide To Better Sex DVD) and practicing the exercises will help.
   


2. Applying a gel such as Kama Sutra Pleasure Gel Original or a spray such as Stud 100 on his penis. These products decrease the sensitivity for him hence helping him prolong. Both these items are safe and developed for this problem specifically.
   


3. Put on a cock ring. This can be slid on around the base of the penis but they function the most effectively when secured around both the scrotum and penis. Cock rings are designed to restrict the blood from flowing out of the penis, which can prolong an erection as well as create a firmer and slightly larger penis (this is a temporary result! The penis will not get larger with continuous use of a ring).
   


4. To reach orgasm faster for a women, she can stimulate her clitoris manually during intercourse, use a small external vibrator like the Layaspot which has a great curve that forms around the women's pelvis and clitoris, or a gel like Clitoral Stimulating Gel to increase the blood flow and circulation to the area.

Have a question or looking for advice? email us at: info@honeygifts.com and it may make it on the next blog!

Sex Tip of The Day from Honey:Vancouvers Upscale Sex Shop

What more can you ask for than a book that is informative and hilarious at the same time? One book that we have always carried and our customer love is "Sex Tips for Straight Women from a Gay Man." We love what the author Dan Anderson has to say and here is his advice on TALKING DIRTY!

How to Talk Dirty, If You Must
"The key thing to remember, and gay guys certainly are aware of this, is that what you actually say doesn't matter at all. Women may long to hear something romantic, but guys are only thinking about their Heavenly Dragon Pillars. It's all about delivery:What turns the guy on is the sultriness in your voice, the low, almost hushed murmurs, the subtle compliments to his manhood and prowess. Talking dirty is one case where you will definitely be performing, so if your guy is into it, just go deep into your method acting and really let go. Deliver your lines in the absolute lowest, sexiest voice you can. If you're feeling really goofy about this, here are some suggested topics that fall into two basic categories. The first deals with him: how hard he is, how big he is, how hot his body is, how he makes you feel so sexy, etc. The second set deals with you: you want him to go faster, to go harder, you love his sweaty body on yours...you get the picture. Just don't go overboard, or he may figure you've been getting it on the side at the local truck stop.
So now you've rung all the bells, your yin and yang essences have been released, and your golden cleft and his jade stalk are in happy harmony. Proper gay etiquette says that you should offer him a warm, moist towel before he rolls over and drifts happily to sleep. Not only will he remember your gracious hospitality, but it will keep your Polo sheets from getting crusty."

Murmur a few hot words tonight...and set the sheets on fire!
'til tomorrow,
Karyee

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