G-Spot Orgasms

“The G-spot is not a riddle wrapped in a mystery inside an enigma. It is a place in your body…It’s a real, tangible thing, like my breasts and your clitoris, and you can even see it. But for some reason, lots of people seem to think the G-spot is a myth. Or a rumor…No – it’s a real thing, and it makes you come, hard, period. No deep wisdom, soul-searching or goddess worship necessary. But a little knowledge helps.” (The Smart Girl’s Guide to the G-spot Book)

Even with our modern sex education the G-spot has often been misunderstood and thought to be a myth of unreal proportions. We at Honey wish to state that this is untrue and the G-spot is very real and a great way to enhance your sexual experience and keep the orgasms coming.

What is the G-spot?

Around the urethra is a ring of spongy erectile tissue that both men and women have and it is essential for your orgasm pleasures. It is connected to your clitoris and the nerve ending are packed with pleasurable sensations when stimulated.

Where is the G-spot?

Your G-spot is located about 2” inside your body on the upper wall of your vagina towards your belly button. Remember that everyone is created differently so your g-spot could be slightly further or closer than the average 2”. When you become aroused the tissue of the G-spot begins to have a different sensation, it can feel slightly ridged and firmer to the touch and often described in books as being similar to an almond. This is your G-spot, and once you’ve found it you can begin to enjoy a whole variety of new sensations! Some great books for learning more about your G-spot are The Smart Girl’s Guide to the G-spot and Female Ejaculation and the G-spot and if you learn better with visuals the Expert Guide to the G-Spot by Tristan Taormino DVD or Maximizing G-Spot Pleasures DVD are great options.

Stimulating the G-Spot

Stimulating the G-spot is not like stimulating the clitoris, to fully enjoy the sensation of G-spot orgasm you need to press more firmly then you would for clitoral play and that can take some getting used to. Sometime when you are playing with your G-spot you can begin to feel like you need to go to the bathroom, this is not usually the case but to relieve your mind we recommend going to the bathroom before playtime. Begin by getting yourself aroused so the G-spot swells and then gently insert your fingers or a toy, curving upward and pushing firmly. Try stroking firmly with the “come hither” motion. Using firm toys such as the Tulip G, Chubby G or Lelo Gigi are fantastic for G-spot play because they allow you to press more firmly without much effort. Once you have become more familiar with your G-spot you may want to try a toy with a bit more flexibility such as the Fun Factory G-swirl, or Worm Vibrator that will provide you with a softer and more flexible G-spot stimulation.

Play and Experiment

With your G-spot stimulation you may find that you prefer different sensations over others, you may prefer a very firm solid sensation that can be achieved with the Masagi Glass Toy or to have it rhythmically stroked with a swooping sensation with a toy like the Rabbit Habit or Thrusting Hummingbird. You may enjoy having your clitoris stimulated at the same time, which can be achieved with dual action toys like the G-spot Rabbit or Fun Factory Paul and Paulina. Experimenting with different toys and sensations is a great way to learn your body and discover what is most enjoyable to achieving an internal G-spot orgasm for years to come.

Sharing your G-spot

G-spot stimulation does not need to only be a solo exercise, your partner would probably love to join in the fun and they can use their fingers or control a toy to help you achieve orgasmic bliss. Certain positions such as being penetrated by the rear or her on top can also help to achieve maximum G-spot sensation during intercourse. Using sex positions tools such as the Liberator Wedge and Ramp combo can help you to maintain certain G-spot friendly positions with ease. Great options to discovering positions to stimulate the G-spot during intercourse are The Expert Guide to Positions DVD and The Art of Sexual Positions DVD.
A new dual action toy called the We-vibe can be used during intercourse to stimulate the G-spot and clitoris simultaneously while also providing him with some well-deserved vibration sensation. Sharing this orgasm can help teach your partner more about your body and how you enjoy being touched and caressed.

Female Ejaculation

Many women ejaculate when their muscles contract during a G-spot orgasm. Firstly congratulations, you have found a new avenue of sexual pleasure, secondly do not freak out, this is a different fluid from urine and a completely natural and common occurrence amongst women. If you do not ejaculate there is nothing wrong either, sometimes having an object such as a toy can block the ejaculation from happening and you can do so after it has been removed, and sometimes women do not ejaculate. If you are one that ejaculates, using the Sex Blanket that is completely waterproof but soft and sumptuous, can keep you sheets clean and dry especially if you produce copious amounts of fluids.

Remember there is no right or wrong when exploring your body, what feels right is usually right!

Pegging

There has been a tremendous increase in anal play between straight men and women (also known as pegging) over the eight years Honey has been in business. We are delighted to see how sexually at ease many couples have become. The stigma that one must be gay or anal sex damages ones body has been debunked and we have some tips to share on how to enjoy anal play safely while making the experience even more pleasurable for both partners.

Anal play is a great way to stimulate the prostate (p-spot), which is the male equivalent of the female g-spot. The prostate can be easily stimulated with a well-lubed finger curved towards the belly button two to three inches into the rectum. A man can have an orgasm just by slowly stimulating the prostate or intensify his orgasm by stimulating both the p-spot and the penis. A small vibrating toy or a full dildo preferable with a curve can be an excellent addition. The important thing to remember about anal play is that it is suppose to be fun and pleasurable, so communicating what you like or dislike is key to enjoying yourself. Take your time and go slowly with plenty of foreplay.

Key Points of Enjoyable Anal Play/Pegging:

1. Cleanliness: Good hygiene is important when exploring anal play; be sure to keep your hands clean and your nails trimmed when using fingers to explore. Make sure you have chosen toys that can be easily cleaned and/or sterilized after use and NEVER insert anything that has been in your anus into your vagina or mouth until after it has been cleaned.

2. Communication: Making sure to keep the lines of communication open at all times. From initiating anal play all the way to enjoying it, you want to make sure your partner is comfortable with each step along the way.

3. Relaxation: Anal play can be painful especially if you have not taken the time to prepare yourself and relax into the sensation. Rushing can cause discomfort and can make you or your partner resistant to trying it again, so make sure to take your time and go at a comfortable pace for both you and your partner.

4. Lubrication: ALWAYS USE LUBE. The anus itself does not produce any lubrication and if you try to play with dry skin you can easily hurt the thin skin of the rectum. To help ease the way for your fingers or toys, it is essential to use a good lubricant for a comfortable and enjoyable back door play session. Apply lubricant liberally and don't be afraid to add more during, it will only increase the pleasure. Some great suggestions for anal play are Slippery Stuff water based lubricant. This lube is gel like in texture providing a thicker barrier between the toy/finger and delicate anal tissue. Another good option is a silicone based lubricant because they do not dry out even under water. Try ID Millennium or Jo Silicone based lubricant, but make sure you don't use the silicone lube with a silicone sex toy.

5. Once you've mastered the basics and feel comfortable with anal play you can introduce toys, harnesses, and dildos and so much more into your anal play.

Harnesses: Using a harness allows you to strap a dildo to yourself with comfort and stability. It also allows you the versatility of changing the size of your dildos with interchangeable rings that can accommodate different sizes. The Venus Leather Harness and Vibrating Velvet Corset Harness are both sturdy and allow for different sizes of dildos while still being soft and comfortable.

Dildos: You may prefer to start with a smaller dildo when first venturing into anal play as this can help ease the transition from fingers to toys without being too imposing. The Bend Over Beginner kit provides you with a velvet harness and two different sizes of dildos to transition you from a smaller dildo to larger one and accommodating rings for even larger dildos if you desire. The Fun Factory Bandito and Tiger are flexible silicone dildos with wide bases that can easily fit into harnesses to provide different textures and curves for more variety in sensation. When using a dildo we recommend using one with a slight curve upwards to help stimulate the prostate and fit more naturally with the body.

Double Ended Dildos: The double ended dildo is a great way to experience anal play without the harness getting in the way of skin on skin contact. This type of dildo also provides both partners with simultaneous stimulation. The Fun Factory Share and Tango allow you to insert the bean shaped blunt end into your vagina and you hold it in place with the strength of your kegal muscles. The vaginal end also curves for g-spot stimulation in her. After you have inserted the `bean' shaped end, you are left with the dildo pointed outward and held close to your body so you can enjoy the sensual skin to skin contact during your anal play. These sex toys can also be inserted into a harness when first starting out so that you can strengthen your kegal muscles before trying it on its own. The Tango also has the added benefit of a hole at the base of the toy for inserting a bullet so you get the benefit of vibrations sent down the shaft and into the vaginal end.

Always remember that anal sex is not supposed to hurt. If it is painful, stop and engage in more foreplay or try it again another night. If you are concerned about cleanliness, you can always use an anal douche with warm water 1-2 hours before you engage in anal play.

Educate yourself with wonderful DVDs such as The Better Sex Guide to Anal Pleasure and Tristan Taormino's Expert Guide to Anal Sex.

Sex Furniture: Hitting all the Right Spots!

Using furniture specifically designed for sex play is a fantastic way to comfortably and easily position both your bodies for optimal sensual play. Using furniture that is foam and shaped with sexual positions in mind creates angles to reach pleasure spots not experienced otherwise. They provide more support than your own pillows and enables you to try a multitude of fun positions.

Iceberg:

Sometimes there isn't much difference between the right spot and a near-miss. The Iceberg is really versatile and ergonomically designed to decrease the stress on a women’s body.

- It is great to place under your neck when doing the “woman on top” position as it brings you closer to your partner.

- “Downward dog” with the hands free vibrator in place is a must. Improving the angle of penetration as well as helping your partner support the weight and stay in position.

- Elevate your partner’s hips during “missionary” style to improve the angle of the penis to rub against the G spot.
- Under your head and neck for a good “face sitting” which the face closer to the object of it's affection.
- If you are a sufferer of back pain using a positioning device can be the difference between great sex or no sex. The Iceberg provides the perfect curve for the back allowing you to position yourself in a variety of poses. The curve can support your shoulders and neck to help position you for cunnilingus or fellatio, or support her lower back while you have her legs over your shoulders for deep penetration.
- The Iceberg has the advantage of a vibrator pocket, especially designed to fit a toy such as the Lelo Gigi. You can position yourself over the iceberg and have the vibration perfectly positioned at your clitoris …hands-free to explore other erotic areas!
- When the night is through, unzip the cover and throw it in the wash. The polysuede cover is soft, sensual and easy to clean.


Tilt:
Sometimes due to our bodies shape or size we need a little more support to make our bed play comfortable. The Tilt provides a soft rounded curve that will provide comfortable support for your body.

- When placed beneath your neck and shoulders with the woman on top for a “69” position you can easily and comfortably reach all of her body and help support her as well.
- The tilt easily supports her hips and chest for the deep penetration of the “doggy style” it can also help to support his knees when thrusting from behind. This also helps to position you easy for anal penetration.
- Easily elevate your partner’s hips during missionary position for ease of deep penetration.
- The tilt easily lifts her hips while supporting the lower back for deeper and more intimate missionary positions. Perfect if your partner suffers from back pain or discomfort.
- Support both of your hips and torsos for this snug fit of him on top and her laying beneath.

Love Lounge:

The love lounge is a combination unit providing you with a high and low end allowing you to support your whole body with ease.

- Easily support your entire body during missionary position, his knees and thighs are support for stronger thrusts and her body is fully cushioned and supported.
- For easy cunnilingus you can simply support the back of your thighs against the higher ridge of love lounge and position yourself over him. He will be comfortable and able to play longer.
- Using the higher ridge you can position her hips higher easy access for both deep penetration and anal simulation. Her entire torso is supported along the decline for comfort and saves her arms from straining to hold her weight up.
- With her on top she can easily support a stronger thrust with her knees being supported and raised, also because of the incline with him on his back he can easily lift her with his thighs for a deeper and harder thrust.
- Ride him cowgirl style and have your body easily supported in his lap and your knees higher off the ground. Also with him reclining on the incline he can use his thighs to thrust harder and deeper.
- Using the length of this love lounge you can easily lay lengthwise along one another for a new and exciting position and sensations.

The Liberators:

The liberator provides you with the fun option of having a ramp, a wedge or a combination of the two together. The benefit of this is that you can choose to purchase the combo and have the options to play with them together or separately for a variety of positions.

The Wedge provide the perfect support for her lower back to lift her hips high, allowing him to penetrate deep while laying over her body for intimacy and sensation.

The Ramp lifts her back and hips supporting her body in a more upright position, allowing him to get up close and personal with ease. The ramp also helps to support and ease your upper body so that you do not need to have all your body weight supported on a flat surface.

Combined the Ramp and Wedge help to lift the body and support the back, thighs and torso for comfort and ease in positioning allowing for deeper, stronger thrusts and longer play time.

With him laying along the combo with his head supported by the wedge and her supported atop his both can easily reach each other’s erogenous zones while being supported for comfort.

With her atop him he can easily thrust deep with his hips supported by the larger ramp while his neck is supported by the wedge so there is less strain on the upper back and shoulder. With her knees raised over the ramp she can easily get more height with less effort.

Whether trying something small such as the iceberg or going for the full love lounge you will be sure to love experiencing the different positions with the support and comfort of the bedroom furniture, in fact, you’ll be wondering what you did before them!

New Years Resolution: Put yourself First…Female Masturbation

Masturbation is healthy. It has many emotional and physical benefits and best of all it feels good. So this year we should promote self awareness and discovery, both emotionally and physically. Start by taking your pleasure to new heights all by yourself, and you will find that by learning your body you will help both your relationship with yourself, but also with your partner.

Preparing yourself for Pleasure

There are many ways in which you can prepare yourself to give yourself pleasure, just as you would if you were preparing for a partner.

Make yourself feel sexy. Just as if you were getting ready for a hot date with your partner, preparing yourself for a fun evening home alone is also beneficial. Shaving and trimming your hair, from your legs to you pubic area will help make you feel beautiful, you feel sexy. Having a long and sensual bath to help yourself relax and enjoy your body is also and fun way to prepare for the bedroom.

Set up your room. Prepare the room in which you plan to enjoy yourself. Light your favorite scented candles and turn on some music, turn down the lights and put any toys, lubricant or erotic literature you plan to use within easy reach.

The best advice would be to be relaxed as you masturbate. Involve all parts of your body like the breasts and nipples. Become aware of how it feels to you so you can bring that feeling back or share it with your lover later. Don’t try to have an orgasm, just release yourself and enjoy your body. Give yourself permission to experience intense sexual pleasure.

Accessories: Toys, Books, DVDs

There is no right or wrong way to masturbate; as long as it feels good then it is good. Women can use anything from your fingertips to toys and anything from books to videos to enhance their pleasure.

Clitoral Vibrators: Vibrating toys are a fun and satisfying way to enhance your sensual pleasure. They help by providing the intense vibration externally to your clitoris and vulva area. This can help bring orgasm much quicker and with more intensity. Some popular clitoral vibrators are the Lelo Nea and the Fun Factory Layaspot. They have a great curve that fits nicely over the women’s pelvis and a variable speed button so you can choose the right intensity for you. Tease yourself at the low speed or fast and intense.

Internal Vibrator or Dildos: Dildos and vibrators that can be used internally as well as externally are especially fun and fulfilling. You can get the fullness and penetration from these toys or use them externally for clitoral stimulation. Dildos such as the Fun Factory Curve do not provide any vibration so it is often nice to add a clitoral vibrator like the simple Silver Bullet for external pleasure. Or use a dual action sex toy like the Rabbit Habit that provides both internal penetration as well as clitoral stimulation at the same time. Have you tried stimulating your G-spot? Customer favorites have been the Lelo Gigi or the G-spot E-glass. You don’t need to penetrate your vagina with toys but it may help, it is a personal preference.

Books and DVDs: Erotic literature and movies are sexy and exciting ways to rev your mind and body into thinking and feeling sensual and excited. Books such as The Mammoth Book of Erotica or Aqua Erotica are easy to read and provide an exciting array of fantasies to prime your mind into thinking sensually. Arousing the largest sexual organ-the brain; will arouse your body. Studies have shown women are just as aroused as men when it comes to watching erotic movies. You just need to do a bit of research as to which movies would be more appealing to you. There are plenty of X-rated films now directed by women for women.

Masturbation is meant to be a fun and enjoyable way of self discovery, free from guilt and worry. It is a healthy and beautiful way to enjoy yourself, and learn about your sensual body and all the orgasmic pleasures it can receive. This new communication with yourself is often helpful both in your sexual relationships but also in loving yourself more completely. So in 2009, love yourself and have fun doing it!

Fun and Light Techniques for Whips and Paddles

Spanking and light whips are some of the most popular types of sensation play. It can be done in combination with oral sex with your partner standing or on its own as the primary focus.

* Role play is a great way to begin adding slapping into your games; you can spank your school girl with the wooden Naughty Ruler for being “bad” and gently whip your maid for not cleaning the room just right. Role-playing can let you step outside of your everyday roles and experience more freedom in expressing yourself.
Create the role-play scenario for your night of spanking bliss. Get creative and set up a situation that creates intensity for both partners.

* Picking your pleasure items is part of the fun and anticipation. You can choose from a variety of whips, paddles and crops for your foray into this erotic pleasure. Each provides a different aural and physical sensation. Whips have many tails which can be used to stroke and tap your partner. Our leather Flogerella whips and rubber whips are good for beginner and intermediates. They can create very soft taps or more stingy strokes but the mid-length allows more control. Paddles and crops provide a slappier sound; which can be very arousing, and the length allows you to be up close or further away from your lover. Often it is the sound of the paddle hitting your bottom or thigh that is just as sexy as the sensation.

* Warming up. Start with light touches like feathers and finger nails, slowly running along from the lower back to the back of the thigh area but focusing on the buttocks. Or try applying some edible warming oil and licking the area. Then move up by using a whip, paddle or your hand with gentle taps and flicks over the entire buttock or thigh area. Warming up the area sends happy endorphins to the brain and starts the juices flowing. Mix up your spanking by switching between gentle love taps, massage and harder smacks. Be sure to switch from one cheek or thigh to the next. The body becomes accustomed to any sensation after about twenty minutes so you need to keep changing the sensation to make the pleasure last.

* Get your swing on. When using the whip or flogger you need to first practice your swing. You wouldn’t walk out onto the badminton court without trying your racket for the first time; neither should you try a whip on a partner until you have learnt to control the feel of your whip and floggers.
You can begin creating a steady and rhythmic motion with forehand/backhand action. Adding flicks of your wrist or a slight heavy handedness to change the rhythm or motion of your stroke.
The “towel” stroke is a quick flick of the wrist and snap of your whip. The “windmill” stroke is a counterclockwise or clockwise motion of your wrist that has a quick flick across the bottom. Also the “figure 8” pattern can be created with the use of two whips used simultaneously.
Any and all of these movements can be used in combination with each other and spanking. Changing your rhythm and motion creates a more erotic sensation and you can heighten the sensation by using a blindfold, it will create anticipation and suspense.

* Communication. Find out what your partner is enjoying by asking questions such as ‘harder’, ‘softer’, ‘faster’, ‘slower’…etc. Or vise versa, if you are the person being flogged or spanked. Use this occasion to talk dirty and arouse your partner more. Tell them how you love seeing their butt cheeks turn red or how bad you’ve been to deserve this spanking.

* Positions. The most popular position is over the knee. But you can prop your partner on all fours with their rump in the air or over furniture like a bed, chair, or sex furniture like the Liberator Ramp or Wedge. Experiment with different locations and positions.

* Safety First. There are areas where it is safe for spanking and flogging and other areas that should be avoided. Fleshy areas such as the buttocks, shoulder, calves and thighs are a safe and fun area for whipping and spanking. DO NOT whip the abdomen area below the ribcage, head, neck, spine or behind the knees and ankles. The abdomen especially has vital organs such as the kidneys and a rough hit could cause damage.
Be careful not to wrap the tip of the whip around these sensitive areas during whip play.
Always have a safe word which when uttered stops the play immediately. This is your partner’s way of saying “I have had enough.”

After your playful session, rub down the area with a cooling cream like the Kama Sutra body soufflé in Cool Mint or Soaring Spirit massage oil. Talk about how the experience was for each of you and make a date for the next play session!

Sexy Costumes for Bedroom Role-Playing

Role playing has long been a part of our sex games and fantasies; it allows us the freedom and liberation of being someone else for a few hours to play out the fantasies and try out the persona of the role you are playing. Three of the most popular fantasy costumes include:

Naughty School Girl: The cute and flouncy plaid skirt, pigtails, white button down top and white knee high stockings. The fantasy usually includes a teacher who needs to discipline the naughty school girl. This fantasy is popular because it allows the teacher to be in control and for the student to give up control. Over the years at our retail store we have had customers question the meaning behind the school girl fantasy. A fantasy played out between two adults is just that- a fantasy come true! It is about dominance and submissiveness. And of course Britney Spears probably made it even more popular! Check out some the cute School Girl, and Private School Girl costumes. Combine this fantasy with accessories like the Naughty Ruler.

Naughty Nurse: The Naughty Nurse is still one of the top fantasy costumes! We all know nurses don’t go to work wearing anything that even slightly resembles any of the sexy nurse costumes but that won’t stop this classic fantasy. This scenario usually involves the nurse attending to the patients every sexual whim to bring them back to ‘health’. The nurse in this situation can be the one in control with the ‘sex prescription’ to sexually satisfy the patient or she can give orders for the patient to sexually satisfy her. And of course this costume can also be used for the doctor and nurse fantasy! There are plenty of sexy nurse costumes to choose from, check out the Naughty Nurse, Night Nurse, Vinyl Nurse, Day Nurse, and the Darque Nurse. Accessories are also key to completing a role-playing fantasy. Complete the outfit with Naughty Nurse Opaque thigh highs, leather crop, Jo Flavored Lubricant and the Roughneck Realistic Vibrator.

French Maid: We are not sure why this fantasy came about…except if a stranger comes into a room with practically just a bed and dressed in a sexy outfit with fishnets, a sexual fantasy is sure to arise! At Honey we carry two sexy French maid costumes, the Upstairs Maid and the Chamber Maid. And don’t forget the accessories to complete the outfit like the Fishnet Thigh High Stay-ups and the Pleasure Feather!

There are many role-playing costumes to have fun with like the Policewomen, Little Bo Peep, Pussy Cat, Fire Women, Cheerleader, Prisoner of Love, Sweet Fairy, Geisha Girl, Sexy Mountie Girl … etc. Take a look at all the Sexy Costumes!

Some General Guidelines for Sex Games and Role-play:

1. Agree to the basics of the fantasies rules; for example, if using bondage or spanking in your game agree to how far you wish the fantasy to play out. I.e.: if you wish to see marks or no marks etc.

2. Designate your roles, this helps make the role playing more realistic as you will know which role you are playing.

3. Have a “safe word”. A word you both know and understand to absolutely mean STOP! Choose a word that is not easy misunderstood or misheard, some examples are “Roses” or “Peanut Butter.” These words should tell your partner that it is time to stop.

Have fun and indulge in as much play as you can with your partner! Your bedroom should not only be a place of sleep but an adult play zone. As they say…couples that play together stay together!

Playful Positions for Fuller Figures

Pregnancy is a beautiful time for you and your partner, but sometime the beautiful belly starts to get in the way of your more traditional positions. Here are some fun varieties to try that are comfortable and safe for mommy and baby.

Soft Landing: Stack a pile of soft and fluffy pillows underneath your stomach and chest to cushion and support your body and neck. You will have comfort against the support and he has access to your body from behind. This position allows for adding a little anal play into the equation. The Havana Tush Toy kit can be used with or without vibrations. Using just the tip of the plug for external stimulation of the bum can be a lot of fun. In this position he should avoid pumping too hard or deep.

Wheelbarrow: This position is comfortable and easy. Simply lay curled on your side at the edge of your mattress with your neck and shoulder propped comfortably by a few soft and fluffy pillows. He stands between your butt and knees for easy penetration, and he will enjoy a wonderful view of you. In this position he can easily reach around and stimulate your clitoris with a small and compact Fuzuoku Finger Vibrator. Use the finger sex toy to slowly tease and tantalize!

Belly Up: Bracing yourself up against a headboard or wall allows for a shallower penetration that is pleasurable and fun. It also gives him access to touch your breasts, belly and clitoris softly. We recommend using pillows beneath your knees for comfort and support. Combining this with a couples toy like the Diving Dolphin can triple your pleasure! This toy comes with two bullets-one that vibrates against her clitoris as well as one underneath that stimulates him and her!

As you move along in your pregnancy we recommend visiting your doctor, intercourse should be fine if your pregnancy is progressing normally but if you have any complications be sure to discuss frankly with your doctor what you can and can not do.

Hello to all you voluptuous ladies out there. We’ve created a section just for you, to help you discover some creative and ingenious solutions to some playful positions. Being a plus size lady has many challenges with body image and some positions just don’t work. But instead of worrying about all that we’ve come up with a few fail safe solutions to just enjoy sex, no matter your size.

No Ouch Couch: The couch is perfect for sex furniture. Using the seat cushion to support you upper body and having more pillows supporting your arms and neck as well as cushioning your knees. You will feel cushioned and comfortable allowing him access from behind for deep penetration. This position is great for him to reach around to stimulate your nipples with some Ice Queen Nipple Gel or placing a compact mini vibrator on his finger like the Five Function Finger Vibe to slowly massage your clitoris. This position is also super for pleasuring the nerve rich anal area. Start slowly stimulating the outside with a small well lubricated butt plug like the Silicone Pleasure Plug or insert some small anal beads like the Fun Factory Bendy Beads. The beads are slowly pulled out during an orgasm providing a more intense experience.

Deep Mission: Continuing our couch theme, if you throw the back cushions to the side you will create a deeper couch on which to enjoy yourselves. You can lay back, get comfortable and open you legs wide for a deeper missionary penetration. The intimacy of gazing into each others eyes and giving him access to your breast and clitoris will make this an all around enjoyable position. If you find pillows too soft, a wonderful option would be The Liberator Sex Furniture. These triangular shapes allow you to move into unlimited positions while providing firm support. You won’t be limited by where you can and cannot have sex. The triangle shapes make it easy to slip into narrow spaces when not in use.

Good Headboard: Sometime being on top when you are a voluptuous lady can be awkward and uncomfortable. If you try using the head board as leverage you can lift and support your body with ease and the leverage allows you to speed up the action. This position gives him the added advantage of being able to lay back and have access to your clitoris. A vibrating cock ring like the Utopia Triple Action can be a fabulous addition to this position as it allows you full control of how much stimulation you want on your clitoris. You can tease yourself until you’re ready to orgasm. This couple’s sex toy also has an extra testicle ring for him-intensifying his orgasm.

To see more of these playful positions see Ride'em Cowgirl by Sadie Allison.

How To Choose A Sexual Lubricant

Choosing the right lubricant can greatly enhance your sexual pleasure whether with a partner or for use on a sex toy. It decreases the friction and creates a slippery entry for your partner or toy. When choosing the right lubricant for you it can get overwhelming, this guide will help you choose the perfect sexual lubricant for you your toys and partner to use.

Specialty Lubes for Women. Lubricants designed just for women are generally very gentle and glycerin free. This helps to prevent the possibility of yeast infections in those with very sensitive skin. Some fantastic lubes for women are the Pink Lubricants, as well as the JO Agape.

Silicone Based Lubricants. If you like to have sex in the shower but find that the water washes away your lubricant then silicone is the one for you. This lube stays slippery until you wash it off with soap and water, no need to reapply, perfect for playtime in the bathtub. Some fun silicone lubricants to try are the ID Millennium or the Pink Silicone. Silicone lubricants should not be used with silicone toys; this can slowly erode the toy’s silicone exterior.

Flavored Lubricant. Flavored lubricants are the perfect choice for oral sex. They smell and taste delicious, while making it easier to perform. Some fun tastes to try are the O’My Flavors such as Melon or Pina Colada, JO flavors such as Strawberry or Tangerine, Hathor’s flavors such as Chocolate Strawberry or Hazelnut Caramel, and ID’s fun flavors such as Bubblegum or Mint.

Warming Lubricants. To add some heat to your sex play, try using a warming lubricant. This lubricant heats up against the skin providing a fun heated tingling sensation. Some fun lubes to try are the JO Warming, ID Warming or Pink Warming.

Textures: Lubricants have a variety of textures to think about. Whether it be smooth and watery or a thick gel you should choose the right lubricant for the play at hand. Thicker textures such as Slippery Stuff are fantastic for anal play. The thicker solution coats the body and stays for longer. Thinner lubricants such as O’my Natural or JO H2O are fantastic for sex play with your partner or with a toy.

Glycerin Free. Glycerin is a type of complex sugar, and found in most lubricants. Specialty lubricants especially for women are glycerin free. This is helpful for women with recurring yeast infection or severe sensitivity.

Water Based. Water based lubricants are among the most popular lubricants. Water based is safe for all sex toys and is very easy to clean.

Using a lubricant is a sure way to enhance your sexual play and fun, and with the varieties available you will be sure to find just the right one for you and your partner. Enjoy!

A Sexy Easter Pleasure Hunt

Celebrating the Easter season with chocolates and rabbits is always fun, but this year why not try something a little more daring with your partner for the Easter weekend. A fun way to spice things up is by sending your partner off on a sexy pleasure hunt, with you as the grand prize!

You can make your hunt as simple or complex as you wish, but here are some fun tips and tricks to make the wait worth the rewards.

1) To get your partner following your trail try taking some sexy photos of yourself using a digital or Polaroid camera. You could start off tame and show each photo with a little less clothing and a naughty pose, be adventurous and make a combination of naughty, risqué and sexy poses to lead them along the way.

2) Start off by putting your tamest picture someplace easy to find. Be creative and put the picture in a box of Easter chocolates or candies, and maybe a hint or clue as to what you wish them to do or where you will be.

3) Create a path throughout your home with each picture becoming racier; leave a few sexy treats like the furry cuffs, or Belgian Chocolate Body Paint along the way to spark some sensual ideas.

4) For yourself as the grand finale you had best take a good sip of wine and set yourself up in your sexiest duds. Whether you choose from racy lingerie or your birthday suit and a pair of heels, you should feel sexy and empowered!

5) Now here comes the fun part: you’re all sexy and fine and you’ve got your partner looking for you in anticipation, but how do you want to be found? Slinky in the bed with a feast of delights beside you? Or already restrained with the under the bed restraint system and ready for them to make a meal of you with the deserts you’ve left along the way. However you desire your treasure hunt to end from being tied up in bed to having a fun bath together with some passion bath salts you know that this will be a pleasure hunt you both will never forget.

If doing the full Easter hunt is too difficult due to little children running wild, perhaps a mini hunt is the way to go. Slip a sexy note or picture into your partner’s pocket during the morning and even a couple more throughout the day. This provides some stimulating anticipation for a fun night ahead. Slip them a designated time with the last sexy note and then be sure to have the little ones off to bed or with a sitter so that you can set yourself up as an Easter treat.

Honey's Q & A: After Pregnancy Intimacy

Q: I had a baby two months ago. My heart and brain are screaming for sex, but my body is still saying ‘no way!’ Will I ever be able to enjoy sex again?

A: Congratulations on the new addition to your family. You can certainly enjoy sex after pregnancy. The key is going slow and listening to your body.

Much will depend on how much wear and tear you experienced while giving birth. If you were torn or had an episiotomy, it could take longer before you truly feel comfortable during sex. Exactly how long depends on a number of things, including how long you normally take to heal, the extent of tearing or type of episiotomy, length of labor and whether the delivery was assisted by forceps or vacuum extraction.

Kegel exercises, up to 100 per day, are one step to getting your pelvic floor muscles strong again. Find the muscles by imagining you’re urinating. Squeeze the muscles as if you were stopping the flow of urine. Let go and try again. Squeeze and release repeatedly to strengthen the vaginal muscles. Adding a toy designed to help with Kegels such as Smart Balls or Lelo Luna Luxury Balls can be helpful and fun.

Even without tears, you will likely notice your vagina does not lubricate as well as before. This is due to low levels of estrogen. Also, breastfeeding can increase dryness as lactating women produce fewer of the ovarian hormones that make you lubricate. This means a good water-based lube is a must.

Plenty of foreplay is essential too. Not only will it help move lubrication along, but if your body isn’t feeling up to the act itself, foreplay can be the main event. Plenty of cuddling, petting, oral sex and mutual masturbation will help keep you and your partner physically close.

As your body heals, you may find certain sexual positions you enjoyed pre-pregnancy and even while pregnant no longer feel comfortable. Rather than dwelling on this as a negative, use it as an opportunity to try new positions. You may be pleasantly surprised. Side-to-side or woman-on-top positions will allow you more control and put less stress on body parts that may still be healing.

Most of all keep communicating with your partner and keep a sense of humor. If pain persists, see your doctor.

Valentine Picnic In Bed

Feeding your desire

Sex and food have been erotically linked for ages. Think of Marc Anthony feeding Cleopatra grapes. Casanova is rumored to have shared oysters with his lovers to stimulate their sexual appetites. And who doesn’t remember the steamy kitchen scene in 9 1/2 weeks? It’s not unusual to feel a familiar tingle while slowly savoring each bite of your favorite flavors. After all, aroma and flavor tease the senses in bed and at the table alike.

A Valentine’s Day picnic in bed is an ideal way to enjoy delectable delights of all kinds. No need to worry about recharging your batteries for your extended play session if you bring the right accoutrements to bed, namely sweet and savory items guaranteed to whet your appetite.

First, lay out an easy-to-wash picnic blanket to catch any crumbs and any, ahem, moisture. The Luscious Sex Blanket is a perfect moisture-proof playscape for your Valentine’s romp. Plush on one side, silky satin on the other and featuring an inner moisture barrier, it will keep your dry-clean only duvet spotless.

Now, what’s on the menu? Let your appetite be your guide. Here are some scrumptious suggestions:

• A sprinkling of Kama Sutra Honey Dust, made with pure, natural honey has a delicate scent and irresistible taste. Tickle and tease your partner with the soft feather applicator.

• Create an edible masterpiece with Belgian Chocolate Body Paint. This quality chocolate is sure to please the most discriminating chocoholic.

• Did you know the strawberry was a symbol of Goddess of Love Venus, because of its color and heart shape? Best of all, this fruit is just perfect for dipping in melted chocolate to feed your lover.

• Make oral sex even more fun with flavored lubes like ID Juicy Lubes or naturally flavored condoms like O’My Blo condoms.

• Grapes, a la Marc Anthony feeding Cleopatra, will ramp up your desire. Just be sure to buy the seedless variety!

• Because tingles shouldn’t be limited to below the belt, tickle both your tongues with a mouthful champagne as you kiss.

• To heat up your romantic romp, use edible oils that warm the skin and get hotter with the softest of blows, like Oil of Love.

• How many licks does it take to get to the centre? Find the answer with the help of silky, sultry Body Licks Skin Candy.

• Nipples will stand at attention with the help of a fruity balm like Nipple Nibblers. Or apply to your lips before giving your sweetie a surprisingly tingly kiss.

• Don’t forget honey, perfect for drizzling. An added bonus is honey is a natural moisturizer.

• Top off your lover with whipped cream and a cherry.

Erotic Movies For Couples

The brisk chill in the air, rain, sleet and hail are precluding the wonder of the winter months. With the end of day light savings the nights creep up sooner and we must take shelter in the comfort of fuzzy covers and body heat. So what better way to spend those cozy nights snuggled together than to watch a movie?

Statistics have shown that it’s no longer men who monopolize visual stimulation. In a recent study it has been shown that 75% of couples are now enjoying erotic videos to spice things up. Allowing you to possibly re-enact you favorite parts or just enjoy the show! With the coming of the chills we’ve brought in a fun new selection of sexy pornography videos to heat up the blankets and warm your toes.

If it is your first time entering the world of erotic movies, we recommend going for the classics. With Jenna Jameson is the Masseuse you have the original and the new version, its two videos in one! It shows us the fun and exciting life of a masseuse as she reveals her favorite games to play with clients. To really set yourself up for a sensual evening we recommend breaking out your own massages oils, candles and open minds. Watch the video first or join along, just as long as you have fun and heat things up! We recommend using Kama sutra oil of love massage oil; it is edible and warms to the skin to help keep the chill at bay.

Another great classic video is Debbie Does Dallas East vs West. A young cheerleading captain and her squad in a fantastic erotic video, need we say more? To make the evening more realistic you could dress up in the private school girl costume just for him see what the evening has in store for you.

If your ready for something a little more raw and are ready to ramp things up a notch we recommend watching Chemistry or Jenna Love Pain. These two videos are sexy and take you to a whole new world, whether you want to try it or just feel content to watch, you’ll be sure to open new doors of sensual adventure. If you feel the desire for some video props we recommend the Luscious Sex blanket and Floggerella Leather Whips to make the evening a surprise event.

If you’re feeling a little devilish we recommend The New Devil in Miss Jones. The lovely virgin is enticed by the Devil played by Jenna Jameson, now Miss Jones must submit to the Devil’s every whim and desire. Enjoy this movie just as a show or pull up some submission techniques of your own with the Devilish Weekend Kit. Take turns being the devil and enjoy a sexy weekend away.

If none of these erotic videos have caught your fancy or imagination, then perhaps a little education fun will be of service to you. With fun new titles like the Expert Guide to Anal Sex, or the Expert Guide to Oral Sex, you and your partner can heat up the sheets while learning a little something new.

So to start the season off right go ahead and explore your sensual boundaries using videos and props to guide you along or spark your imagination. Heat the sheets and spend the season cozy in bed, as there is no better way to spend the holidays.

Tips and Thrills for The Boo-doire

Ever watch your favorite scary movie for the millionth time with your hands over your eyes, peeking through your fingers just as that particularly frightening yet thrilling part comes? Once you’re too old for trick-or-treating, Halloween really is all about getting a kick out of being frightened.

When you’re scared, your hormones kick in, resulting in a rush of adrenaline. This kicks up your physical strength and senses a few notches, something that comes in handy when playing with your partner.

All kinds of sexual kinks have roots in the fun of fear and the thrill of the unknown. Just the abbreviation BDSM (bondage/discipline, domination/submission and sadism/masochism) scares and thrills the pants off many. Think it’s too much for you? You’d be surprised how easy and exciting it is to customize to your needs.

BDSM covers a cache of kinks – spanking, wearing nipple clamps, blindfolds, gags, role playing, playing with hot and cold (think ice cubes and hot wax) and tying up your sweetie. It’s not about pain, but rather it’s about exploring what turns your crank. Following are some tips to getting your BDSM on:

Play safe: By this, we mean talk it out with your partner and make sure you’re on the same page when it comes to how far you’ll go. This means agreeing on…

A “safeword”: This is the word means stop. You can also have multiple words for “stop”, “slow down” and “let’s discuss.”

Start simple: Keep it simple in the beginning. Rather than trying full-on bondage, nipple clamps and hot wax all at once, start with one particular element and work your way up.

Hit me: Feeling naughty and in need of punishment? Old-fashioned spanking is a good start for beginners as you can better gauge how hard you are hitting. Keep it to the fleshier parts of the body and avoid super-sensitive areas like feet and hands.

Make it comfy: If the thought of being tied up gets you hot and bothered, start with something like fuzzy handcuffs or silk scarves. When tying knots, make sure you can slip two fingers between the restraints and your partner’s wrists or ankles.

Role-playing is another way to test your thrill-o-meter.

Costumes are fun any time of year. Is your man afraid of the doctor? Dressing the part of Naughty Nurse will cure what ails him, along with his fear of needles, in no time.

Ladies, if you’re the boss, let him be the boss now and then by playing the sexy, naïve Office Girl.

If you’re not up for full on dress-up yet, simply go to a bar and pretend you’re trying to pick your guy up. Wear a little something your partner wouldn’t normally expect, like Fishnet Thigh High Stockings. Give him a flirty look and perhaps a sneak peak of your, ahem, accessories, and you’ll be heading home or some other secluded area, pronto.

Great Sexual Arousal Techniques

Getting aroused is all about preparing your body for the act itself. Your heart kicks it up a notch, blood pressure rises and muscles tense. Blood flow to your nether-regions increases, making it hard to think.

Here are some ideas on how to turn guys and gals on:

• For her, many consider the clitoris the golden ticket.
  Massaging with a gel will keep things slick while boosting her sensitivity by increasing blood flow to the clitoris. Plus, adding clitoral stimulation while also stimulating the G-spot will send her over the top. Not just for use with a partner, it will help a woman help herself. (We recommend O Clitoral Stimulating Gel)



• But don’t dive for the clit right away.
  Start with massaging her other parts. Breast stimulation is fun for both him and her.



• For him, it’s visual and tactile. For her, it just feels darn good when done right.
  Symmetry, equal attention to both sides, is essential, as is starting slowly and gently. No cold hands please – massage oil can help keep things warm. Most importantly, read her cues. Some women prefer you keep it gentle, while others enjoy a nip. (To help tease and add a tasty sensation,we recommend using a flavored lube or Kama Sutra Honey Dust.)
  
  
• Less explicit things.
  Sexual arousal is often piqued by less explicit things and can start with seemingly non-sexy acts such as her partner taking out the garbage or preparing dinner, not to mention cleaning up afterwards
  
  
• Physical affection without sex helps up arousal.
  Touching – hugs, cuddles, kisses – all build the electricity for her. When having sexual contact, build it up with plenty of foreplay, focusing on the whole body, not just her sexual bits.
  
  
• Separate from work.
  Separate stress from work and other outside sources from your life as a couple. An added bonus is stress release can lead to sex, sex being the ultimate in stress release. Does your partner like a deep or gentle massage? You never know where a well-timed foot rub may lead.
  
  
• More than just Pete.
  Though men and women alike joke that men can only function mentally when their other head is not in use, to truly arouse a guy, it’s about more than just Pete – remember the boys, the neighboring perineum, and sometimes a little anal play is more than welcome.
  
  
• Mouthwash adds sensation.
  More suction doesn’t necessarily translate to good head. Teasingly licking his balls and shaft will help build up to the moment. Gargling with mouthwash beforehand, in addition to giving you minty fresh breath, will give him a tingly sensation.
  
  
• Stimulate his P-spot.
  While giving him head or hand, help finish him off with a perineal massage or stimulate his P-spot (prostate) with butt play. The perineum is the super sensitive spot between his testicles and anus. Press firmly and pump with a finger or knuckle to send him over the edge. Straight men who claim their butt is one-way only have likely never had the nerve-rich anus explored. A lot of lube, gentle touch and small toy. (We recommend the Finger Fun Vibrator - it can be a real eye opener. )
  
  
• Visual turn-ons.
  Then there are the visual turn-ons. Looking for something you can enjoy together, beginning to end? How about shopping for porn together? Yes, women like and are turned on by porn. It just has to be the right kind – there’s more out there than ‘70s porn with bad music and bad facial hair. The selection is tremendous, with women-directed flicks, natural bodied actors, plot-filled films and out-and-out sexfests.
  
  
• Suggested Reading material for him.
  Sexpert Lou Paget’s How To Give Her Absolute Pleasure book is chock full of ideas on how to build intensity.
  
  
• Suggested Reading material for her.
  Paget explores how to blow his mind too in How To Be a Great Lover. It’s about more than the penis, from his neck down to his perineum, testicles and, ahem, into his P-spot (prostate).

How to blindfold your lover during sex

Pick up a sexy, silky blindfold. (Many people swear by Blindfold for the Senses.) There's something delightfully decadent about being blindfolded. And with his or her eyes covered, your partner's remaining senses shift into high gear - every whisper, every touch is sensuously heightened. So cue up a sultry CD, light some incense, slip a blindfold on your sweetie and:

• Lightly caress your lover's skin with a feather, a rose petal or silky lingerie.
• Drizzle your partner with honey. Or paint erotic chocolate designs in unexpected places and then slowly lick them off - a tasty treat for two.
• Pour some warming, edible body butter in your hands, then rub, knead and stroke away every last drop of, er, tension. Get creative and go hands-free.
• Relive your favourite 9½ Weeks scene - you know the one. Feed your lover luscious morsels of fruit dipped in chocolate or honey.

Fantasy Role Playing for Sexual Arousal

Many people ofter feel awkward, stuck or straight out silly when they try to do fantasy role playing during sex. Some of us will also be stunted for creativity, props and ambiance...where do we start?

Let's discuss the fine details to consider to really help you succeed in feeling confident for your role playing and sexual desires.

Take this example…
(this write up scenerio is from About.com http://sexuality.about.com/od/sexualroleplay/qt/settingthescene.htm)

You’ve decided to play a graduate student and your partner is going to be a professor. It’s the day of your big oral defense. This scenario is full of potential: power dynamics, opportunity for sexual bribery, a May-December sexual
tryst, plenty of “oral defense” puns.

But, if you don’t know what your research area is, or you don’t know whether you are a brilliant student being cut down by a sexy and overbearing professor, or a grad student who has slept their way to the top, and intends to do the very same tonight, you can’t get very far into the scenario.

Once you’ve come up with a character that strikes your fancy, start to think about the overall scenario, and answer some of these questions:

1. What is the physical setting? If you’re indoors, what kind of room (big, small, dark, brightly lit).
2. What time of day is it?
3. Are there other people nearby, are you in a public place, or completely secluded where no one will hear you scream (with pleasure)?
4. What’s the story? Why are you there, and (aside from the sex) what’s going to happen?

Filling in the details can not only give you more ideas for the sex part of the fantasy, but it can really help get you in character and make the role play come to life.

Check out your closet and drawers , look around your environment and find out what props would help with your fantasy and/or character.....Need help with props? Here's some scenerio suggestions:

School Girl - try the Private School Girl Costume, or School Girl

• For the teenage schoolgirl - How about a lipstick vibe for acting out a typical school girl. Tease your partner while applying it to your "sensitive" parts... and not your lips!
• For the naughty but nice schoolgirl - why not compliment the costume with a set of Furry Hand cuffs or the Spank Me Kit....pretend you are in detention...who wouldn't have fun with those!

French Maid - try the Friksy French Maid costume and match it up with a duster or a Sensual Body Feather. Instead of cleaning liquids or a bar of soap, grab a Massage Bar, Allow the buttery bar move along your curves.....create the perfect surface and let the delicious scent draw you closer.

Kitty Cat - wear a sexy Pussy Cat Costume and make him meow! Who needs to be tamed! Tie him up with Bondage Tape, and what self-respecting Sex Kitten would be caught without her purrrrrfect accessory....the Kitty Crop?

Nurse Betty - Try the Naughty Nurse - With this lycra dress, head piece and gloves...you don't need much. Play the role of nurse helping a patient...maybe be a thoughful nurse and apply body chocolate to your patient and lick it off. Or even wear a pair of edible undies and let him try some candy!

And finally what other props you need to make the ambiance: Perhaps, a candle for a soft alluring effect, a spray of Bare Essence Phermones to boost your sex signals , or even an inviting trail of roses to set the mood.