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Friday

Fun and Light Techniques for Whips and Paddles


Spanking and light whips are some of the most popular types of sensation play. It can be done in combination with oral sex with your partner standing or on its own as the primary focus.

* Role play is a great way to begin adding slapping into your games; you can spank your school girl with the wooden Naughty Ruler for being “bad” and gently whip your maid for not cleaning the room just right. Role-playing can let you step outside of your everyday roles and experience more freedom in expressing yourself.
Create the role-play scenario for your night of spanking bliss. Get creative and set up a situation that creates intensity for both partners.

* Picking your pleasure items is part of the fun and anticipation. You can choose from a variety of whips, paddles and crops for your foray into this erotic pleasure. Each provides a different aural and physical sensation. Whips have many tails which can be used to stroke and tap your partner. Our leather Flogerella whips and rubber whips are good for beginner and intermediates. They can create very soft taps or more stingy strokes but the mid-length allows more control. Paddles and crops provide a slappier sound; which can be very arousing, and the length allows you to be up close or further away from your lover. Often it is the sound of the paddle hitting your bottom or thigh that is just as sexy as the sensation.

* Warming up. Start with light touches like feathers and finger nails, slowly running along from the lower back to the back of the thigh area but focusing on the buttocks. Or try applying some edible warming oil and licking the area. Then move up by using a whip, paddle or your hand with gentle taps and flicks over the entire buttock or thigh area. Warming up the area sends happy endorphins to the brain and starts the juices flowing. Mix up your spanking by switching between gentle love taps, massage and harder smacks. Be sure to switch from one cheek or thigh to the next. The body becomes accustomed to any sensation after about twenty minutes so you need to keep changing the sensation to make the pleasure last.

* Get your swing on. When using the whip or flogger you need to first practice your swing. You wouldn’t walk out onto the badminton court without trying your racket for the first time; neither should you try a whip on a partner until you have learnt to control the feel of your whip and floggers.
You can begin creating a steady and rhythmic motion with forehand/backhand action. Adding flicks of your wrist or a slight heavy handedness to change the rhythm or motion of your stroke.
The “towel” stroke is a quick flick of the wrist and snap of your whip. The “windmill” stroke is a counterclockwise or clockwise motion of your wrist that has a quick flick across the bottom. Also the “figure 8” pattern can be created with the use of two whips used simultaneously.
Any and all of these movements can be used in combination with each other and spanking. Changing your rhythm and motion creates a more erotic sensation and you can heighten the sensation by using a blindfold, it will create anticipation and suspense.

* Communication. Find out what your partner is enjoying by asking questions such as ‘harder’, ‘softer’, ‘faster’, ‘slower’…etc. Or vise versa, if you are the person being flogged or spanked. Use this occasion to talk dirty and arouse your partner more. Tell them how you love seeing their butt cheeks turn red or how bad you’ve been to deserve this spanking.

* Positions. The most popular position is over the knee. But you can prop your partner on all fours with their rump in the air or over furniture like a bed, chair, or sex furniture like the Liberator Ramp or Wedge. Experiment with different locations and positions.

* Safety First. There are areas where it is safe for spanking and flogging and other areas that should be avoided. Fleshy areas such as the buttocks, shoulder, calves and thighs are a safe and fun area for whipping and spanking. DO NOT whip the abdomen area below the ribcage, head, neck, spine or behind the knees and ankles. The abdomen especially has vital organs such as the kidneys and a rough hit could cause damage.
Be careful not to wrap the tip of the whip around these sensitive areas during whip play.
Always have a safe word which when uttered stops the play immediately. This is your partner’s way of saying “I have had enough.”

After your playful session, rub down the area with a cooling cream like the Kama Sutra body soufflé in Cool Mint or Soaring Spirit massage oil. Talk about how the experience was for each of you and make a date for the next play session!

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Tuesday

Sexy Costumes for Bedroom Role-Playing


Role playing has long been a part of our sex games and fantasies; it allows us the freedom and liberation of being someone else for a few hours to play out the fantasies and try out the persona of the role you are playing. Three of the most popular fantasy costumes include:

Naughty School Girl: The cute and flouncy plaid skirt, pigtails, white button down top and white knee high stockings. The fantasy usually includes a teacher who needs to discipline the naughty school girl. This fantasy is popular because it allows the teacher to be in control and for the student to give up control. Over the years at our retail store we have had customers question the meaning behind the school girl fantasy. A fantasy played out between two adults is just that- a fantasy come true! It is about dominance and submissiveness. And of course Britney Spears probably made it even more popular! Check out some the cute School Girl, and Private School Girl costumes. Combine this fantasy with accessories like the Naughty Ruler.

Naughty Nurse: The Naughty Nurse is still one of the top fantasy costumes! We all know nurses don’t go to work wearing anything that even slightly resembles any of the sexy nurse costumes but that won’t stop this classic fantasy. This scenario usually involves the nurse attending to the patients every sexual whim to bring them back to ‘health’. The nurse in this situation can be the one in control with the ‘sex prescription’ to sexually satisfy the patient or she can give orders for the patient to sexually satisfy her. And of course this costume can also be used for the doctor and nurse fantasy! There are plenty of sexy nurse costumes to choose from, check out the Naughty Nurse, Night Nurse, Vinyl Nurse, Day Nurse, and the Darque Nurse. Accessories are also key to completing a role-playing fantasy. Complete the outfit with Naughty Nurse Opaque thigh highs, leather crop, Jo Flavored Lubricant and the Roughneck Realistic Vibrator.

French Maid: We are not sure why this fantasy came about…except if a stranger comes into a room with practically just a bed and dressed in a sexy outfit with fishnets, a sexual fantasy is sure to arise! At Honey we carry two sexy French maid costumes, the Upstairs Maid and the Chamber Maid. And don’t forget the accessories to complete the outfit like the Fishnet Thigh High Stay-ups and the Pleasure Feather!

There are many role-playing costumes to have fun with like the Policewomen, Little Bo Peep, Pussy Cat, Fire Women, Cheerleader, Prisoner of Love, Sweet Fairy, Geisha Girl, Sexy Mountie Girl … etc. Take a look at all the Sexy Costumes!

Some General Guidelines for Sex Games and Role-play:

1. Agree to the basics of the fantasies rules; for example, if using bondage or spanking in your game agree to how far you wish the fantasy to play out. I.e.: if you wish to see marks or no marks etc.

2. Designate your roles, this helps make the role playing more realistic as you will know which role you are playing.

3. Have a “safe word”. A word you both know and understand to absolutely mean STOP! Choose a word that is not easy misunderstood or misheard, some examples are “Roses” or “Peanut Butter.” These words should tell your partner that it is time to stop.

Have fun and indulge in as much play as you can with your partner! Your bedroom should not only be a place of sleep but an adult play zone. As they say…couples that play together stay together!

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Friday

How to blindfold your lover during sex


Pick up a sexy, silky blindfold. (Many people swear by Blindfold for the Senses.) There's something delightfully decadent about being blindfolded. And with his or her eyes covered, your partner's remaining senses shift into high gear - every whisper, every touch is sensuously heightened. So cue up a sultry CD, light some incense, slip a blindfold on your sweetie and:
  • Lightly caress your lover's skin with a feather, a rose petal or silky lingerie.
  • Drizzle your partner with honey. Or paint erotic chocolate designs in unexpected places and then slowly lick them off - a tasty treat for two.
  • Pour some warming, edible body butter in your hands, then rub, knead and stroke away every last drop of, er, tension. Get creative and go hands-free.
  • Relive your favourite 9½ Weeks scene - you know the one. Feed your lover luscious morsels of fruit dipped in chocolate or honey.

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