Pegging

There has been a tremendous increase in anal play between straight men and women (also known as pegging) over the eight years Honey has been in business. We are delighted to see how sexually at ease many couples have become. The stigma that one must be gay or anal sex damages ones body has been debunked and we have some tips to share on how to enjoy anal play safely while making the experience even more pleasurable for both partners.

Anal play is a great way to stimulate the prostate (p-spot), which is the male equivalent of the female g-spot. The prostate can be easily stimulated with a well-lubed finger curved towards the belly button two to three inches into the rectum. A man can have an orgasm just by slowly stimulating the prostate or intensify his orgasm by stimulating both the p-spot and the penis. A small vibrating toy or a full dildo preferable with a curve can be an excellent addition. The important thing to remember about anal play is that it is suppose to be fun and pleasurable, so communicating what you like or dislike is key to enjoying yourself. Take your time and go slowly with plenty of foreplay.

Key Points of Enjoyable Anal Play/Pegging:

1. Cleanliness: Good hygiene is important when exploring anal play; be sure to keep your hands clean and your nails trimmed when using fingers to explore. Make sure you have chosen toys that can be easily cleaned and/or sterilized after use and NEVER insert anything that has been in your anus into your vagina or mouth until after it has been cleaned.

2. Communication: Making sure to keep the lines of communication open at all times. From initiating anal play all the way to enjoying it, you want to make sure your partner is comfortable with each step along the way.

3. Relaxation: Anal play can be painful especially if you have not taken the time to prepare yourself and relax into the sensation. Rushing can cause discomfort and can make you or your partner resistant to trying it again, so make sure to take your time and go at a comfortable pace for both you and your partner.

4. Lubrication: ALWAYS USE LUBE. The anus itself does not produce any lubrication and if you try to play with dry skin you can easily hurt the thin skin of the rectum. To help ease the way for your fingers or toys, it is essential to use a good lubricant for a comfortable and enjoyable back door play session. Apply lubricant liberally and don't be afraid to add more during, it will only increase the pleasure. Some great suggestions for anal play are Slippery Stuff water based lubricant. This lube is gel like in texture providing a thicker barrier between the toy/finger and delicate anal tissue. Another good option is a silicone based lubricant because they do not dry out even under water. Try ID Millennium or Jo Silicone based lubricant, but make sure you don't use the silicone lube with a silicone sex toy.

5. Once you've mastered the basics and feel comfortable with anal play you can introduce toys, harnesses, and dildos and so much more into your anal play.

Harnesses: Using a harness allows you to strap a dildo to yourself with comfort and stability. It also allows you the versatility of changing the size of your dildos with interchangeable rings that can accommodate different sizes. The Venus Leather Harness and Vibrating Velvet Corset Harness are both sturdy and allow for different sizes of dildos while still being soft and comfortable.

Dildos: You may prefer to start with a smaller dildo when first venturing into anal play as this can help ease the transition from fingers to toys without being too imposing. The Bend Over Beginner kit provides you with a velvet harness and two different sizes of dildos to transition you from a smaller dildo to larger one and accommodating rings for even larger dildos if you desire. The Fun Factory Bandito and Tiger are flexible silicone dildos with wide bases that can easily fit into harnesses to provide different textures and curves for more variety in sensation. When using a dildo we recommend using one with a slight curve upwards to help stimulate the prostate and fit more naturally with the body.

Double Ended Dildos: The double ended dildo is a great way to experience anal play without the harness getting in the way of skin on skin contact. This type of dildo also provides both partners with simultaneous stimulation. The Fun Factory Share and Tango allow you to insert the bean shaped blunt end into your vagina and you hold it in place with the strength of your kegal muscles. The vaginal end also curves for g-spot stimulation in her. After you have inserted the `bean' shaped end, you are left with the dildo pointed outward and held close to your body so you can enjoy the sensual skin to skin contact during your anal play. These sex toys can also be inserted into a harness when first starting out so that you can strengthen your kegal muscles before trying it on its own. The Tango also has the added benefit of a hole at the base of the toy for inserting a bullet so you get the benefit of vibrations sent down the shaft and into the vaginal end.

Always remember that anal sex is not supposed to hurt. If it is painful, stop and engage in more foreplay or try it again another night. If you are concerned about cleanliness, you can always use an anal douche with warm water 1-2 hours before you engage in anal play.

Educate yourself with wonderful DVDs such as The Better Sex Guide to Anal Pleasure and Tristan Taormino's Expert Guide to Anal Sex.

Sex Furniture: Hitting all the Right Spots!

Using furniture specifically designed for sex play is a fantastic way to comfortably and easily position both your bodies for optimal sensual play. Using furniture that is foam and shaped with sexual positions in mind creates angles to reach pleasure spots not experienced otherwise. They provide more support than your own pillows and enables you to try a multitude of fun positions.

Iceberg:

Sometimes there isn't much difference between the right spot and a near-miss. The Iceberg is really versatile and ergonomically designed to decrease the stress on a women’s body.

- It is great to place under your neck when doing the “woman on top” position as it brings you closer to your partner.

- “Downward dog” with the hands free vibrator in place is a must. Improving the angle of penetration as well as helping your partner support the weight and stay in position.

- Elevate your partner’s hips during “missionary” style to improve the angle of the penis to rub against the G spot.
- Under your head and neck for a good “face sitting” which the face closer to the object of it's affection.
- If you are a sufferer of back pain using a positioning device can be the difference between great sex or no sex. The Iceberg provides the perfect curve for the back allowing you to position yourself in a variety of poses. The curve can support your shoulders and neck to help position you for cunnilingus or fellatio, or support her lower back while you have her legs over your shoulders for deep penetration.
- The Iceberg has the advantage of a vibrator pocket, especially designed to fit a toy such as the Lelo Gigi. You can position yourself over the iceberg and have the vibration perfectly positioned at your clitoris …hands-free to explore other erotic areas!
- When the night is through, unzip the cover and throw it in the wash. The polysuede cover is soft, sensual and easy to clean.


Tilt:
Sometimes due to our bodies shape or size we need a little more support to make our bed play comfortable. The Tilt provides a soft rounded curve that will provide comfortable support for your body.

- When placed beneath your neck and shoulders with the woman on top for a “69” position you can easily and comfortably reach all of her body and help support her as well.
- The tilt easily supports her hips and chest for the deep penetration of the “doggy style” it can also help to support his knees when thrusting from behind. This also helps to position you easy for anal penetration.
- Easily elevate your partner’s hips during missionary position for ease of deep penetration.
- The tilt easily lifts her hips while supporting the lower back for deeper and more intimate missionary positions. Perfect if your partner suffers from back pain or discomfort.
- Support both of your hips and torsos for this snug fit of him on top and her laying beneath.

Love Lounge:

The love lounge is a combination unit providing you with a high and low end allowing you to support your whole body with ease.

- Easily support your entire body during missionary position, his knees and thighs are support for stronger thrusts and her body is fully cushioned and supported.
- For easy cunnilingus you can simply support the back of your thighs against the higher ridge of love lounge and position yourself over him. He will be comfortable and able to play longer.
- Using the higher ridge you can position her hips higher easy access for both deep penetration and anal simulation. Her entire torso is supported along the decline for comfort and saves her arms from straining to hold her weight up.
- With her on top she can easily support a stronger thrust with her knees being supported and raised, also because of the incline with him on his back he can easily lift her with his thighs for a deeper and harder thrust.
- Ride him cowgirl style and have your body easily supported in his lap and your knees higher off the ground. Also with him reclining on the incline he can use his thighs to thrust harder and deeper.
- Using the length of this love lounge you can easily lay lengthwise along one another for a new and exciting position and sensations.

The Liberators:

The liberator provides you with the fun option of having a ramp, a wedge or a combination of the two together. The benefit of this is that you can choose to purchase the combo and have the options to play with them together or separately for a variety of positions.

The Wedge provide the perfect support for her lower back to lift her hips high, allowing him to penetrate deep while laying over her body for intimacy and sensation.

The Ramp lifts her back and hips supporting her body in a more upright position, allowing him to get up close and personal with ease. The ramp also helps to support and ease your upper body so that you do not need to have all your body weight supported on a flat surface.

Combined the Ramp and Wedge help to lift the body and support the back, thighs and torso for comfort and ease in positioning allowing for deeper, stronger thrusts and longer play time.

With him laying along the combo with his head supported by the wedge and her supported atop his both can easily reach each other’s erogenous zones while being supported for comfort.

With her atop him he can easily thrust deep with his hips supported by the larger ramp while his neck is supported by the wedge so there is less strain on the upper back and shoulder. With her knees raised over the ramp she can easily get more height with less effort.

Whether trying something small such as the iceberg or going for the full love lounge you will be sure to love experiencing the different positions with the support and comfort of the bedroom furniture, in fact, you’ll be wondering what you did before them!

Playful Positions for Fuller Figures

Pregnancy is a beautiful time for you and your partner, but sometime the beautiful belly starts to get in the way of your more traditional positions. Here are some fun varieties to try that are comfortable and safe for mommy and baby.

Soft Landing: Stack a pile of soft and fluffy pillows underneath your stomach and chest to cushion and support your body and neck. You will have comfort against the support and he has access to your body from behind. This position allows for adding a little anal play into the equation. The Havana Tush Toy kit can be used with or without vibrations. Using just the tip of the plug for external stimulation of the bum can be a lot of fun. In this position he should avoid pumping too hard or deep.

Wheelbarrow: This position is comfortable and easy. Simply lay curled on your side at the edge of your mattress with your neck and shoulder propped comfortably by a few soft and fluffy pillows. He stands between your butt and knees for easy penetration, and he will enjoy a wonderful view of you. In this position he can easily reach around and stimulate your clitoris with a small and compact Fuzuoku Finger Vibrator. Use the finger sex toy to slowly tease and tantalize!

Belly Up: Bracing yourself up against a headboard or wall allows for a shallower penetration that is pleasurable and fun. It also gives him access to touch your breasts, belly and clitoris softly. We recommend using pillows beneath your knees for comfort and support. Combining this with a couples toy like the Diving Dolphin can triple your pleasure! This toy comes with two bullets-one that vibrates against her clitoris as well as one underneath that stimulates him and her!

As you move along in your pregnancy we recommend visiting your doctor, intercourse should be fine if your pregnancy is progressing normally but if you have any complications be sure to discuss frankly with your doctor what you can and can not do.

Hello to all you voluptuous ladies out there. We’ve created a section just for you, to help you discover some creative and ingenious solutions to some playful positions. Being a plus size lady has many challenges with body image and some positions just don’t work. But instead of worrying about all that we’ve come up with a few fail safe solutions to just enjoy sex, no matter your size.

No Ouch Couch: The couch is perfect for sex furniture. Using the seat cushion to support you upper body and having more pillows supporting your arms and neck as well as cushioning your knees. You will feel cushioned and comfortable allowing him access from behind for deep penetration. This position is great for him to reach around to stimulate your nipples with some Ice Queen Nipple Gel or placing a compact mini vibrator on his finger like the Five Function Finger Vibe to slowly massage your clitoris. This position is also super for pleasuring the nerve rich anal area. Start slowly stimulating the outside with a small well lubricated butt plug like the Silicone Pleasure Plug or insert some small anal beads like the Fun Factory Bendy Beads. The beads are slowly pulled out during an orgasm providing a more intense experience.

Deep Mission: Continuing our couch theme, if you throw the back cushions to the side you will create a deeper couch on which to enjoy yourselves. You can lay back, get comfortable and open you legs wide for a deeper missionary penetration. The intimacy of gazing into each others eyes and giving him access to your breast and clitoris will make this an all around enjoyable position. If you find pillows too soft, a wonderful option would be The Liberator Sex Furniture. These triangular shapes allow you to move into unlimited positions while providing firm support. You won’t be limited by where you can and cannot have sex. The triangle shapes make it easy to slip into narrow spaces when not in use.

Good Headboard: Sometime being on top when you are a voluptuous lady can be awkward and uncomfortable. If you try using the head board as leverage you can lift and support your body with ease and the leverage allows you to speed up the action. This position gives him the added advantage of being able to lay back and have access to your clitoris. A vibrating cock ring like the Utopia Triple Action can be a fabulous addition to this position as it allows you full control of how much stimulation you want on your clitoris. You can tease yourself until you’re ready to orgasm. This couple’s sex toy also has an extra testicle ring for him-intensifying his orgasm.

To see more of these playful positions see Ride'em Cowgirl by Sadie Allison.

How To Choose A Sexual Lubricant

Choosing the right lubricant can greatly enhance your sexual pleasure whether with a partner or for use on a sex toy. It decreases the friction and creates a slippery entry for your partner or toy. When choosing the right lubricant for you it can get overwhelming, this guide will help you choose the perfect sexual lubricant for you your toys and partner to use.

Specialty Lubes for Women. Lubricants designed just for women are generally very gentle and glycerin free. This helps to prevent the possibility of yeast infections in those with very sensitive skin. Some fantastic lubes for women are the Pink Lubricants, as well as the JO Agape.

Silicone Based Lubricants. If you like to have sex in the shower but find that the water washes away your lubricant then silicone is the one for you. This lube stays slippery until you wash it off with soap and water, no need to reapply, perfect for playtime in the bathtub. Some fun silicone lubricants to try are the ID Millennium or the Pink Silicone. Silicone lubricants should not be used with silicone toys; this can slowly erode the toy’s silicone exterior.

Flavored Lubricant. Flavored lubricants are the perfect choice for oral sex. They smell and taste delicious, while making it easier to perform. Some fun tastes to try are the O’My Flavors such as Melon or Pina Colada, JO flavors such as Strawberry or Tangerine, Hathor’s flavors such as Chocolate Strawberry or Hazelnut Caramel, and ID’s fun flavors such as Bubblegum or Mint.

Warming Lubricants. To add some heat to your sex play, try using a warming lubricant. This lubricant heats up against the skin providing a fun heated tingling sensation. Some fun lubes to try are the JO Warming, ID Warming or Pink Warming.

Textures: Lubricants have a variety of textures to think about. Whether it be smooth and watery or a thick gel you should choose the right lubricant for the play at hand. Thicker textures such as Slippery Stuff are fantastic for anal play. The thicker solution coats the body and stays for longer. Thinner lubricants such as O’my Natural or JO H2O are fantastic for sex play with your partner or with a toy.

Glycerin Free. Glycerin is a type of complex sugar, and found in most lubricants. Specialty lubricants especially for women are glycerin free. This is helpful for women with recurring yeast infection or severe sensitivity.

Water Based. Water based lubricants are among the most popular lubricants. Water based is safe for all sex toys and is very easy to clean.

Using a lubricant is a sure way to enhance your sexual play and fun, and with the varieties available you will be sure to find just the right one for you and your partner. Enjoy!

How to Have Backdoor Fun

Did you take a sharp breath just now? Or perhaps your virgin bum cheeks are clenched together? Take a deep breath and relax for the ride. It needn’t be scary and will enhance your boudoir routine when you follow our steps. After all, the anal area is rich with nerve endings and muscles, making the right touch a pleasure for women and men. For guys, it can put pressure on the prostate, resulting in a mind-blowing orgasm. And for gals, the G-spot can be stimulated indirectly during anal sex. But before you dive in, here are a few important tips.

1.Lube, lube, and more lube
The anus doesn’t lubricate like the vagina. This makes the right lubricant a must-have accessory for backdoor play. A water-based, glycerin-free lube like Slippery Stuff is compatible with latex and silicone, so can be used with condoms. Slippery Stuff is thick, so it forms a protective coat on your delicate behind. A silicone-based lube such as ID Millennium will not dry out, keeping you slick and ready for action, even under water. Make sure you pick the right lube for you.

2. Take your time
Many people are scared off anal play by the delicate nature of the area. Because the rectum’s tissue is quite sensitive, it is possible to tear it. However, the correct type of lube is a big part of keeping your heinie intact, as is taking things slowly. Start with feeling the outside of your own or your partner’s bottom first. You may be surprised at the sensitive spots you find before entry. A tongue or very well lubed finger is a good way to start.

3. Keep it clean
If the whole poop thing gives you the heebie jeebies, the ‘receiver’ can go to the bathroom first and follow up with a shower. Indeed, or the whole enchilada can take place in the shower too. The ‘giver’ may also wear a latex glove with plenty of lube to keep his or her hands pristine. A well-lubed condom goes without saying.

4. Education
Before forging ahead, stimulate the mind with instructional DVDs. A good DVD will use real couples to show watchers positions in detail, so there are no convoluted diagrams to follow. Many show you the physiology of anal stimulation and how to prepare for it, along with debunking the myths about anal. Some also touch on topics like safe sex and anal hygiene. Worthwhile DVDs include The Better Guide to Anal Pleasure and Expert Guide to Anal Sex For a New Generation, both by Tristan Taormino.

5. Play safe with the right toys
Yikes! Imagine the embarrassment of heading to the emergency room because you lost a toy in your bum. Yes, it can happen if you don’t use the correct toys. Anal toys should have a flanged end to prevent this from occurring.

6. Plugs
Butt plugs like the Ashley Tush Toy have a thin neck and flanged base so they can’t completely slip inside. The Ashley has the added bonus of an opening at the base, where a small bullet vibrator can fit inside for a little extra zip.

7. Anal Beads
Centuries of bead enthusiasts can’t be wrong! Beads make the sphincter muscles contract. Beads + muscle contractions = Amazing Orgasms. A nice equation, don’t you think? Modern designs, such as Silicone X-10 Beads, feature seamless graduated anal beads. Gently insert the smallest and work your way up according to your comfort zone. Gently pull them out as you climax to kick it up a notch.

For beginners looking for the complete package, the Tush-tastic Kit is simply bootylicious! It includes everything you’ll need: The Better Sex Guide to Anal Pleasure DVD; Ashley Tush Toy; Power Bullet; Jelly Anal Beads and Slippery Stuff lube.