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Thursday

Pegging


There has been a tremendous increase in anal play between straight men and women (also known as pegging) over the eight years Honey has been in business. We are delighted to see how sexually at ease many couples have become. The stigma that one must be gay or anal sex damages ones body has been debunked and we have some tips to share on how to enjoy anal play safely while making the experience even more pleasurable for both partners.

Anal play is a great way to stimulate the prostate (p-spot), which is the male equivalent of the female g-spot. The prostate can be easily stimulated with a well-lubed finger curved towards the belly button two to three inches into the rectum. A man can have an orgasm just by slowly stimulating the prostate or intensify his orgasm by stimulating both the p-spot and the penis. A small vibrating toy or a full dildo preferable with a curve can be an excellent addition. The important thing to remember about anal play is that it is suppose to be fun and pleasurable, so communicating what you like or dislike is key to enjoying yourself. Take your time and go slowly with plenty of foreplay.

Key Points of Enjoyable Anal Play/Pegging:

1. Cleanliness: Good hygiene is important when exploring anal play; be sure to keep your hands clean and your nails trimmed when using fingers to explore. Make sure you have chosen toys that can be easily cleaned and/or sterilized after use and NEVER insert anything that has been in your anus into your vagina or mouth until after it has been cleaned.

2. Communication: Making sure to keep the lines of communication open at all times. From initiating anal play all the way to enjoying it, you want to make sure your partner is comfortable with each step along the way.

3. Relaxation: Anal play can be painful especially if you have not taken the time to prepare yourself and relax into the sensation. Rushing can cause discomfort and can make you or your partner resistant to trying it again, so make sure to take your time and go at a comfortable pace for both you and your partner.

4. Lubrication: ALWAYS USE LUBE. The anus itself does not produce any lubrication and if you try to play with dry skin you can easily hurt the thin skin of the rectum. To help ease the way for your fingers or toys, it is essential to use a good lubricant for a comfortable and enjoyable back door play session. Apply lubricant liberally and don't be afraid to add more during, it will only increase the pleasure. Some great suggestions for anal play are Slippery Stuff water based lubricant. This lube is gel like in texture providing a thicker barrier between the toy/finger and delicate anal tissue. Another good option is a silicone based lubricant because they do not dry out even under water. Try ID Millennium or Jo Silicone based lubricant, but make sure you don't use the silicone lube with a silicone sex toy.

5. Once you've mastered the basics and feel comfortable with anal play you can introduce toys, harnesses, and dildos and so much more into your anal play.

Harnesses: Using a harness allows you to strap a dildo to yourself with comfort and stability. It also allows you the versatility of changing the size of your dildos with interchangeable rings that can accommodate different sizes. The Venus Leather Harness and Vibrating Velvet Corset Harness are both sturdy and allow for different sizes of dildos while still being soft and comfortable.

Dildos: You may prefer to start with a smaller dildo when first venturing into anal play as this can help ease the transition from fingers to toys without being too imposing. The Bend Over Beginner kit provides you with a velvet harness and two different sizes of dildos to transition you from a smaller dildo to larger one and accommodating rings for even larger dildos if you desire. The Fun Factory Bandito and Tiger are flexible silicone dildos with wide bases that can easily fit into harnesses to provide different textures and curves for more variety in sensation. When using a dildo we recommend using one with a slight curve upwards to help stimulate the prostate and fit more naturally with the body.

Double Ended Dildos: The double ended dildo is a great way to experience anal play without the harness getting in the way of skin on skin contact. This type of dildo also provides both partners with simultaneous stimulation. The Fun Factory Share and Tango allow you to insert the bean shaped blunt end into your vagina and you hold it in place with the strength of your kegal muscles. The vaginal end also curves for g-spot stimulation in her. After you have inserted the `bean' shaped end, you are left with the dildo pointed outward and held close to your body so you can enjoy the sensual skin to skin contact during your anal play. These sex toys can also be inserted into a harness when first starting out so that you can strengthen your kegal muscles before trying it on its own. The Tango also has the added benefit of a hole at the base of the toy for inserting a bullet so you get the benefit of vibrations sent down the shaft and into the vaginal end.

Always remember that anal sex is not supposed to hurt. If it is painful, stop and engage in more foreplay or try it again another night. If you are concerned about cleanliness, you can always use an anal douche with warm water 1-2 hours before you engage in anal play.

Educate yourself with wonderful DVDs such as The Better Sex Guide to Anal Pleasure and Tristan Taormino's Expert Guide to Anal Sex.

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Wednesday

Creating a Boudoir Toy Box


“Remember the Toy box you had as a kid? Make an adult version, then take turns picking and playing…” (Tracy Cox Super Sex Deck)

Even though you have to “grow up” it doesn’t mean you still can’t have your childish desires. Picking your favorite toy from a toy box brimming full can provide just as much pleasure now as it did so long ago. With the holiday season past and the excitement of spring around the corner its time to start taking stock of your toys and renewing the old or starting off with the new.

A toy box is more than just a few vibrators, its full of wondrous items that will provide hours of sensual stimulation, laughs and fun. Your adult toy box should be full of everything you fancy, from of course your vibrators and dildos, to erotic books, DVD’s, edible goodies, massage and bondage. From sweet to racy your box should speak to your every desire and mood. So here are some fun ideas to fill your box with some sexy and fun items to get started!

Pleasure Toys: At least one or more vibrator such as the Lelo Gigi which will provide you with the option of internal or external stimulation, and is curved for the g-spot to boot. Other fun gadgets could include erotic videos and sex aids and even a Polaroid or digital camera for some sexy shots to share.

Dress-up: Any good toy box should have some dress up. From the traditional role-play costumes like the Naughty Nurse to leather corsets and whips to help act out any fantasy.

Laughs: Anything edible helps the laughter roll, especially if it can be licked, sucked or rubbed off, such as the candy g-string and bra or body licks. For more fun and laughter using sexy board games like the Hot Affair game or using Tracy Cox’s Super Sex Deck to help make your evenings a fun filled sexy event.

Good Reads: Erotica is always a good way to rev your engines and get the evening off to the right start. Whether a book such as Sweetlife or with the help of magazines, you should always have a few good options at your disposal.

Bondage: Silk stockings or sexy bondage scarves, bondage has never been more fun than with the addition of our new Babushka line. Made in Vancouver B.C. (name) has created a sexy line of tie up solutions that are beautiful silk and fun colors. You will want to leave them out all the time they are so fantastically soft and beautiful. If silk is not your style we have fantastic furry cuffs and the under the bed bondage kit for something a little more hard core. Whatever your fancy, bondage whether light or intense should have a part of your toy box.

If your concerns about your children or stray guests pawing through your box of goodies than we suggest investing in a fun and sexy locked box. Your toys can be hidden away and there are lots of different styles out there that you could find something beautiful as a décor statement as well as a functional hidy hole for toys. Another fantastic hiding spot for your box is high up in the upper part of your closet, as long as you are tall enough to reach and your little ones are still little than you can have piece of mind. Just make sure to send them off to bed early and lock the doors to make a sensual atmosphere when you and your partner wish to pull out your toys and set up and evening of sensual fun and delight.

For more ideas and suggestions like the ones above check out the Super Sex Deck by Tracy Cox, her fantastic deck provides you wish fun and sexy ideas for many cozy nights together.

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Tuesday

Erotic Movies For Couples


The brisk chill in the air, rain, sleet and hail are precluding the wonder of the winter months. With the end of day light savings the nights creep up sooner and we must take shelter in the comfort of fuzzy covers and body heat. So what better way to spend those cozy nights snuggled together than to watch a movie?

Statistics have shown that it’s no longer men who monopolize visual stimulation. In a recent study it has been shown that 75% of couples are now enjoying erotic videos to spice things up. Allowing you to possibly re-enact you favorite parts or just enjoy the show! With the coming of the chills we’ve brought in a fun new selection of sexy pornography videos to heat up the blankets and warm your toes.

If it is your first time entering the world of erotic movies, we recommend going for the classics. With Jenna Jameson is the Masseuse you have the original and the new version, its two videos in one! It shows us the fun and exciting life of a masseuse as she reveals her favorite games to play with clients. To really set yourself up for a sensual evening we recommend breaking out your own massages oils, candles and open minds. Watch the video first or join along, just as long as you have fun and heat things up! We recommend using Kama sutra oil of love massage oil; it is edible and warms to the skin to help keep the chill at bay.

Another great classic video is Debbie Does Dallas East vs West. A young cheerleading captain and her squad in a fantastic erotic video, need we say more? To make the evening more realistic you could dress up in the private school girl costume just for him see what the evening has in store for you.

If your ready for something a little more raw and are ready to ramp things up a notch we recommend watching Chemistry or Jenna Love Pain. These two videos are sexy and take you to a whole new world, whether you want to try it or just feel content to watch, you’ll be sure to open new doors of sensual adventure. If you feel the desire for some video props we recommend the Luscious Sex blanket and Floggerella Leather Whips to make the evening a surprise event.

If you’re feeling a little devilish we recommend The New Devil in Miss Jones. The lovely virgin is enticed by the Devil played by Jenna Jameson, now Miss Jones must submit to the Devil’s every whim and desire. Enjoy this movie just as a show or pull up some submission techniques of your own with the Devilish Weekend Kit. Take turns being the devil and enjoy a sexy weekend away.

If none of these erotic videos have caught your fancy or imagination, then perhaps a little education fun will be of service to you. With fun new titles like the Expert Guide to Anal Sex, or the Expert Guide to Oral Sex, you and your partner can heat up the sheets while learning a little something new.

So to start the season off right go ahead and explore your sensual boundaries using videos and props to guide you along or spark your imagination. Heat the sheets and spend the season cozy in bed, as there is no better way to spend the holidays.

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Monday

How to Have Backdoor Fun


Did you take a sharp breath just now? Or perhaps your virgin bum cheeks are clenched together? Take a deep breath and relax for the ride. It needn’t be scary and will enhance your boudoir routine when you follow our steps. After all, the anal area is rich with nerve endings and muscles, making the right touch a pleasure for women and men. For guys, it can put pressure on the prostate, resulting in a mind-blowing orgasm. And for gals, the G-spot can be stimulated indirectly during anal sex. But before you dive in, here are a few important tips.

1.Lube, lube, and more lube
The anus doesn’t lubricate like the vagina. This makes the right lubricant a must-have accessory for backdoor play. A water-based, glycerin-free lube like Slippery Stuff is compatible with latex and silicone, so can be used with condoms. Slippery Stuff is thick, so it forms a protective coat on your delicate behind. A silicone-based lube such as ID Millennium will not dry out, keeping you slick and ready for action, even under water. Make sure you pick the right lube for you.

2. Take your time
Many people are scared off anal play by the delicate nature of the area. Because the rectum’s tissue is quite sensitive, it is possible to tear it. However, the correct type of lube is a big part of keeping your heinie intact, as is taking things slowly. Start with feeling the outside of your own or your partner’s bottom first. You may be surprised at the sensitive spots you find before entry. A tongue or very well lubed finger is a good way to start.

3. Keep it clean
If the whole poop thing gives you the heebie jeebies, the ‘receiver’ can go to the bathroom first and follow up with a shower. Indeed, or the whole enchilada can take place in the shower too. The ‘giver’ may also wear a latex glove with plenty of lube to keep his or her hands pristine. A well-lubed condom goes without saying.

4. Education
Before forging ahead, stimulate the mind with instructional DVDs. A good DVD will use real couples to show watchers positions in detail, so there are no convoluted diagrams to follow. Many show you the physiology of anal stimulation and how to prepare for it, along with debunking the myths about anal. Some also touch on topics like safe sex and anal hygiene. Worthwhile DVDs include The Better Guide to Anal Pleasure and Expert Guide to Anal Sex For a New Generation, both by Tristan Taormino.

5. Play safe with the right toys
Yikes! Imagine the embarrassment of heading to the emergency room because you lost a toy in your bum. Yes, it can happen if you don’t use the correct toys. Anal toys should have a flanged end to prevent this from occurring.

6. Plugs
Butt plugs like the Ashley Tush Toy have a thin neck and flanged base so they can’t completely slip inside. The Ashley has the added bonus of an opening at the base, where a small bullet vibrator can fit inside for a little extra zip.

7. Anal Beads
Centuries of bead enthusiasts can’t be wrong! Beads make the sphincter muscles contract. Beads + muscle contractions = Amazing Orgasms. A nice equation, don’t you think? Modern designs, such as Silicone X-10 Beads, feature seamless graduated anal beads. Gently insert the smallest and work your way up according to your comfort zone. Gently pull them out as you climax to kick it up a notch.

For beginners looking for the complete package, the Tush-tastic Kit is simply bootylicious! It includes everything you’ll need: The Better Sex Guide to Anal Pleasure DVD; Ashley Tush Toy; Power Bullet; Jelly Anal Beads and Slippery Stuff lube.

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